, im new here so excuse any mistakes i should make, im hoping for some advice, my son is 19yrs old, and suffers from deppression. about 2 yrs ago he got very low, & i took him to see gp. they put him on anti depression tabs, after about 6 months he wasnt much better so gp was giving him sleeping tabs, & stronger stuff to help him, we were very supportive, made ourselfs available if he wanted any thing & just genrally made sure he knew we were there for him. he suddenly took a overdose, he hadnt taken any of him tablets he had stored them & took the lot. it was a tough time, we came through it & with the help of the home treatment team we turned a corner things got better.
now the deppression is back again, he had his bday last monday, & we would normally have been on hoilday but this year were going in september. his dad had to go to work late in the afternoon , so i suggested we go out for the day, he didnt want to do anything, so i didnt push, i took him to choose what cake he wanted & asked what meal he would like for his dinner. he chose his cake & didnt know what he wanted to eat.
i suggested we have a takeaway.
at 6.30 that evening he wanted us all to go out to a resturant for a meal, his brother had gone to play with friends, so i said we couldnt just go because his brother was out & wouldnt be able to get in . i cant just leave him stranded, this didnt go down well.
we settled for a chinease & said we could all go out together the following day.
he put on face book that he had the worst bday ever, & all we had done was argue, i asked him about it & he said thats the way i feal.
we hadnt argued no cross words were said so i was baffled, i exsplained about the meal again, & left it at my appologising for not having a good bday.
for 2 days running he came home at 4-5am went to bed, then got up at 12-1pm, & went straight back out without even speaking.
i phoned him a couple of times he wouldnt answer the phone so i texted, asking him to come home & lets sort things out.
he did, but when i asked what was wrong he said nuffing im fine, im not miffed with you i just been out enjoying myself, i left it at that, & just asked he let us know hes ok, & tell us he was going out .
we had a knock at the door early hours of sunday morning, it was my nephew, he told us my son had been cutting his wrists, he was home, so i spoke to him about it & asked why, he said because we had been arguing & he felt low.
i asked him if he would like to speak to the home treatment team again, he couldnt decide so i suggested he thought about it & let me know when he makes a decision. he came & asked me to speak to them, i did & we had a emergency appointment last night.
he spoke to them alone, which is fine , i was asked to join them, they decided he needs to go back on meds again, & they will follow things up, also, some understanding & support from home would be a good idea, i was shocked, so shocked i didnt ask what should i be doing i just nodded & aggreed .
hes blocked all the family off face book, but friends have told me what hes putting on there, hes said i dragged him to doctors & i was making him go into hospital, but he refused. he also put that he took a overdose at the start of last week aswell as cutting his wrists. all ive done is shout at him & cause arguments & how he hates me. this is untrue, from what the doc said i belive he may have said the same to them,i havent told him i know what hes put on there, i dont know what to do, he comes & goes as he pleases , there arnt any rules for him other than we know hes safe & well, & he cleans his room occasionally. hes 19 i cant tell him what to do anymore . ive tryed to talk to him ask whats wrong, ive been understanding & patient, yet he writes these lies, im sure it just the deppression, but what should i be doing? how can i help him? . a close friend thinks hes attention seeking do you think shes wright ?. im at a loss, if he really feals im not helping do i leave him alone to get on with it himself ? . im so worried, i dont want him to feal i dont care but dont want to keep asking whats wrong & is he ok . any help or advice would be much appresiated xxx