Good news about my son

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   Posted 6/13/2010 1:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, I got a call from the couselor at my son's placement. I was so happy to hear the good news. He seems to be adjusting well, he has made friends, went to the beach and swimming yesterday and today is at the movies. She said he seems to be quite happy. I can't tell you how good that makes me feel as I felt I was throwing him under the bus. He even likes him room which is great. He hasn't called but I guess that's because he is busy and adjusting to life there.  I wish I was doing as well. I am having a lot of trouble with being alone and handling the loneliness I am feeling. I am sort of overwhelmed. I had plans with a friend today and she cancelled at the last minute. That leaves me feeling sad and down. What to do with the day. I just didn't have the energy to go out. I did some gardening but then it started to rain so here I am. Guess I will try to read. I see my therapist tomorrow which will help me a lot. And I have dinner plans with my two oldest friends so at least I am starting the week out good. I hope it continues.  Still looking for more activities to join and things to do but I guess it will fall into place.

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   Posted 6/13/2010 4:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh Aurora,

I am so happy to hear this news. It must really make you feel good to know that your son is doing good. That is amazing!!!

Keep your chin up. It sounds like you are doing a lot of things to keep you busy and that is good. Keep up the good work.

I know that this is difficult, but you will make it. We are here rooting for you all the way.

At least you know when you are alone, that you are with somebody that you love. Yourself. Keep loving yourself.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 6/13/2010 5:10 PM (GMT -7)   

I usually participate in the Crohn's forum but saw your title "Good news about my son" and I just had to pop in to say congratulations. My own son had a very difficult few years and was hospitalized 5 times in 18 months with depression, suicidal thinking and finally dx bipolar. One year ago I thought he'd never even return to school -- and this weekend we celebrated his HS Graduation surrounded by family and friends.

I don't know what the road holds for him -- he's heading off to college, but we're cautious, because we've seen what can happen and so quickly. I think we've just learned to view the journey differently and to be gentle and supportive of each other no matter at what point we find ourselves. And, I've gotten good at setting up necessary supports along the way -- for both of us.

What I am writing to say is that even though you were sad your friend canceled, you sound like you're doing a GREAT JOB at staying connected with friends. I really admire that since I sort of retreated and stopped reaching out -- I was so traumatized ... I think it literally was like PTSD and it took me awhile (still ongoing) to crawl out of that. Keep scheduling those dinners and digging in that garden!

I wish you both wonderful things with this placement and in the future.
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   Posted 6/13/2010 5:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Karen & Huckleberry, Thanks for your support. I actually got to talk to my son late this afternoon. He sounded happy. He said they actually went to the ocean and beach and he did go swimming. That is a big step for him. They went to a movie this afternoon and he is meeting a lot of new people and making friends. He lives in a house with other housemates but has a room of his own which he likes. If things are going this well so soon I am hopeful the summer will be a success and he will come back an new and independent person.
Huckleberry, I know how stressed you must have been about your son. It sounds like you have done well getting him help. And congratulations on his graduation. This is a big step. Sounds like you are helping him make good choices. I know you have to be cautious but things have a way of working out. It took me a long time to get myself active. I used to just stay home and feel sorry for myself. But being home alone is too lonely so I had to force myself to move. A friend told me the hardest part to doing something is the resistance we set up to why we shouldn't go somewhere. So it may be hard to take the first step but once you do you free yourself to do other things. I hope you will get into some activities. It  makes you feel better about yourself. I wish your son and you a lot of luck and hope you will post again if you ever want to talk. Take good care of you.
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