Try to be more optimistic about
the future. But you don't need a friend to help you cope with your ups and downs in your relationship with your boyfriend. Sure it is nice to have somebody to talk to when things aren't going right, but you don't NEED the other person because you should be able to work things out with your boyfriend. Though it is nice to have somebody to talk to about
things, I don't want you to be needy for that.
I think your best friend really caught you off guard with this news. I get the feeling that you feel that you were like the LAST one to know. And that would probably bother me too, especially if she is suppose to be your best friend. If you feel differently about
your friendship, that is understandable. It probably felt like she ditched you and then when things aren't working out, she came back. Is she really your friend in this case? I would wonder about
that. But being that she confided in you, I would make sure to keep her confidence in this matter, but I would make sure that this friendship isn't just onesided.
As long as you are cool with the situation, I guess it is okay. But make sure that you aren't just keeping her as a friend, just to have somebody there in case things go sour between you and your boyfriend. That relationship is solely between the two of you. I would learn to cope with the down side on my own. Though remember that we are always here for you. I wouldn't rely on somebody else to get me through the downfalls. You have to do that yourself.
Try not to project on next year because of the way that this year went. One thing in this world that is constant, is that there will always be change. Next year is next year. It will be different from this year. You will meet new people, you will have different classes and different demands with these classes. You will make new friends. It is inevitable. There will always be change. So look at it as a new beginning. Look forward to it. Know that there are going to be new adventures and a lot of fun things, if you have the right attitude. Accept it gracefully. Life is full of change.
I hope that things work out for you with this new situation. Try to keep an
open mind. Let things happen. It isn't really that bad. Especially if you don't let it be.
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