Just before reading your last post right now, I was thinking of a newish friend who I haven't heard from in a while. I had called her last. We mostly chat on the phone every couple of weeks and go for lunch every so often. I'm not so nit picky that if I call last, then the person has to call me next. But, I was thinking of how I am very attentive to whatever she is going through and show interest in her as a person.
It occured to me that I know a lot more about this friend than she knows about me. It's not that I don't put my two cents worth in, but the conversation usually gets back to her.
So, I've been debating in my mind whether I should call her to see how she's doing.
I think that's kind of a test of friendship-how much interest is reciprocated.
I think that like you, I have decided that this "friend" of mine is perhaps not really a friend.
I don't think she'll miss me. She doesn't have a lot of friends and doesn't volunteer, get involved in groups BUT she is happy. I am sort of envious of people like this. She was married and lost her husband who was the love of her life tragically. She never wanted children and didn't have any and doesn't miss not having had any.
I wish I could be like people who are content to be home, read, watch TV and don't miss interaction with others. They go away and come home and welcome an empty house.