Depression on a breakup?

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   Posted 7/2/2010 9:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, yesterday I found out that my bf and now ex was cheating on me. We were talking about it and it was like he was aware that this would happen..? He said it was 'the best for all of us' and I don't get it. He also said that it was a lack of me....I don't know and I can't really get over it. It somewhat is affecting me emotionally and physically, like I can't sleep or eat, I'm just so upset about this. He's now with the girl and I don't get it...why would he still go out with her if he knew that he cheats? I don't know what to do anymore but it aches.

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   Posted 7/2/2010 9:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Adela (nice name)

I don't know why he would break up with you, but it sounds like it's good that he is gone. You could never be happy with a cheater. It will hurt for a while, but you will get past this. Try and keep busy and not dwell on the stuff he said.

Take care.....we are here for you.
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   Posted 7/2/2010 9:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey myjoy!(Thank you I like your username too! ^^)

Yeah, I agree but I just can't get over it. I mean it's like you realize he's perfect but then it just goes downhill. I can't really get over it I mean, okay I'm on vacation right now and I don't have my doctor's number so I can't even find a way to contact her. I don't know her e-mail either. Before I went on vacation I thought my depression was gone so I'm off my depression medicine now, but then a few days on where my vacation started, I started having depression symptoms again. So It's harder for me to actually get past this.

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   Posted 7/2/2010 10:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Adela,

I am sorry that you are feeling so down right now, but I do think he did the right thing by breaking it off with you as he knew he couldn't be there for you like you needed him to. Maybe he is just an unfaithful type of guy and wont be true to anybody. You don't need that kind of a paerson in your life.

Know that it takes time to get over these things. You may just be sad and heartbroken now and not depressed in a sense. I mean more of a situational depression that will go away when you feel better. Though I would talk to somebody when you get back from vacation just in case you could take something for a while until you get feeling better.

Please try to enjoy your vacation. Don't dwell on what happened if you can help it. You are going to get stronger because of this. We all do. And know that we are here for you. So keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 7/2/2010 11:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Karen!

Yes I mean this has hapened to me before but I don't know why i'm more upset about this one? I hope that it will go away and people say it reallty does take time.

Thank you guys so much for your help and I also hope to get more solutions.

-Love, Adela

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   Posted 7/3/2010 1:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Adela

Sweetheart, I think you should be thanking your lucky stars that he did break up with you because it doesn't sound like he could be faithful to any girl. You probably liked him more than the other boyfriend but he wasn't worth your love so try hard to forget. You'll meet lots of boys who will be friends and boyfriends but don't rush into anything too early, just take your time, baby steps.

I hope you are enjoying your vacation and summer time. It is really cold here in Australia at the moment as it is our winter but we don't have the extreme conditions that parts of the US experiences thankfully, but it is cold just the same. You might meet someone else on your vacation, it happens. You will meet someone when you are least expecting it, trust me.

Try not to get too depressed over him, there is someone better for you coming along soon. Keep posting and let us know how you are going.

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   Posted 7/3/2010 7:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Adela,
I'm really sorry to hear about your break up. It must be really hard for you. And I guess what might hurt more is that he said you lacked somewhere,but don't you think you didn't lack as much as he did when he instead of trying to work on your relation walked out on it as it was easier than being there and working upon your differences.
If he would have remained with you after admitting his cheating might be he would have made a mistake. But him leaving you meant he didn't feel enough for you.
You surely deserve alot more love.
It's going to take a while, but it's typically said that time heals all the wounds but it is very true. I hope you too would feel better sooner.
Try to use your vacations as a benefit for you to relax and come out of the pain taking your own time.
Hope you feel better soon.


Post Edited (annie.d12345) : 7/3/2010 7:20:21 AM (GMT-6)

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