First all, I have 3 chronic things going on Bipolar ( although I have bee deprssed 2 years, COPD...a new diiagnosis, guess even tho I quit cgaretts 4 years 35 years of smoking caught up with me, and Restless Leg Syndrome which expect no one to understand unless you've had it...it's hell. So mu husband I were talking this morning, and basically said that I did NOT (especially) the dression to dominant our lives. That I tought we both derserve a life outside of it and a good start would be to talk about if less. That I fully realized he started getting angry and rejecting if I brought up the depression issue and The definition fo insanity was when you kept going back over and over, expecting diffirent reults. I tol dhim I thought I had falen into that trap and I would do my best not to keep coming to him.
have been married to this guy 41 years and beleive me I have given him a run for his money. But I asked him what he thought he was capable of as far as support, listening on a limited basis (with the option to cut me off if I got to be too oeveerhelming, etc.,,In other wrods he had the freedom to step back if needed. I felt that having talked like we did, I could deal with it (let's face it, there is always the messgae boards!!)
So ending up discuession, I just asked him where he could fit in. it was 100% agreed less talk about bepolar and hsi answer was that he did not fit in anywhere and he saw his only role and obligation to me was financial support. and he walked out the house and havne't heard from him for 5 hours. I am don't know what to think. Our deicussion was civlied...no raised voices and iit got a lot of issues and I kind of thought it as problem solving. Guess I called that one wrong
This probably isn't signifcant, about year Ago DH started attendindoc appointemnts with me and he and the doc
discussed me like I wasn't there.
I reaaly don't know what to do
Bi-polar I; rapid cycler; Lithium 600
Requip XL 8mg; Lamictal 200 mg; seraquel 450mg, klonopin 4mg