You are thinking in your head too much and you two are not talking. You guys might need a jump start by going to a couples counselor who can help you with communication skills and all that good stuff. But I do seem to see a couple red flags here....first of all, you are making all the effort, going nuts trying to think of stuff for you two to do, and he is just laying around. When a relationship starts pulling you down and there seems to be more bad than good, as hard as this sounds, it is time for you to reevaluate the relationship. Nobody should have that much control over your moods. I think (I know this sounds harsh) that you possibly went to your families house thinking you wouldn't have a good time instead of staying
open to having a good time, so it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Like if a good kid is told over and over he is bad, he will start to think that and his behavior becomes bad. Sometimes we set ourselves up for disappointment which can make us feel depressed. For instance, I know without a doubt if I go to my husband to talk about
something negative, he will shut me down. I, who expected that this ONE time he would listen (even tho I know better), am all disappointed and crash into depression. These are the kind of cycles relationships can get into and if it continues, the relationship will suffer. I think right now you two are pulling each other down and if you don't fix this downward spiral, it will only get worse. Really, if you two cannot resolve this yourselves, consider some professinal help.
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