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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 7/11/2010 5:56 PM (GMT -6)   
i'm new to this. i needed someone to talk to.
i've been in a 'hidden' relationship with someone for some years now.
and all of a sudden he just died.
i really, really loved him. he was the love of my life.
i don't think anyone else will ever love me like he did.
no one knew that i loved him, and now no one knows that i'm grieving for him.
when i'm alone i cry all the time.
i don't know how to deal with this, and i need someone to talk to.
i try not to think about it too much, because i'm afraid that i start back having panic attacks.
i can't imagine living my life without him in it. he once told me the same thing as well.
now he's gone. he's left me and i don't know what to do !
life seems so meaningless now.
right now i'm grieving silently.
i need help coping with this.

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   Posted 7/11/2010 6:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jill,
Welcome to the depression forum.  I am sorry that you have lost your love hon.  And I am sorry that nobody can know about it.  This must be awful hard for you right now. 
Have you thought about grief counseling?  I think it is free and there should be a grief center somewhere near you.  I would check into that.  Or even into regular counseling.  It seems that you need some extra support right now.  What you are going through is difficult to go through alone.  You need for somebody to listen to you and talk to you.  We can support you here, but I think you need even more than we can give.  So check out counseling, especially for grief.  They may offer that at a local hospital or something like that.  I would call.  If you can't do any of these things, look for a book on going through grief.  I am sure that you can find something on the internet.  And most of all, know that we are all here for you and want to help you.
Take care,
Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 7/11/2010 6:26 PM (GMT -6)   
I lost my brother and his dog, in Iraq. Would you like to talk about it? And my condolences.
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   Posted 7/13/2010 3:22 AM (GMT -6)   
my deepest condolences. i lost my lady in 04. she died in my arms. grief counselling really helps. also there is no right or wrong way to grieve. in time it will get better. it was darn hard for me to move on, i felt it was disrespectful, but i have her blessing and am now engaged. sending healing compassionate prayers to you. jamie.


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