this would be my first post advising someone, so I wouldn't expect it to be great.
Like Siobhan, I'm also a teen (16) that has put up with the suffering alone instead of
opening up to people around me, and it has cause alot of havoc.
I, although not being admitted into hospital for it, had attempted because of alot of time spent alone with a feeling that there is no-one out there that will listen to me and that I can freely talk to without being judged. It's a hard feeling to explain, and you can't completely understand how it feels until you have gone through it in a personal experience. Unlike her, however, the reasoning for depression, I caused mine (I Believe) internally.
I was spending way too much time holding myself down with thoughts that I'll just weigh people down, so I started to push most of my closest friends away, even if that involved hurting them, to make them realise I wasn't worth any of their time. After maybe two weeks, I only had about three people that still didn't hate me, and I became really lonely, so I made a person, a person out my thoughts and wishes; the person I wished I was, both in Image and in Personality; and called him Jesse. He was tall, slim, and had an awesome fashion sence (well, I thought so). I could tell him anything, and he'd help me through anything I needed help with.
Anyway, the point I'm getting at is that even if he keeps himself active with his friends, or with something he enjoys doing, there's always times that thoughts and memories will always catch up with him, and yes, they will take their toll, one way or another. One thing that alot of Parents can't see, no matter how close the families are, is when a child is going through something that could lead to a case similar to your son. Make sure he knows that no matter what time of day or night, that there's always someone there that can help him and listen to him. I also suggest maybe finding something creative he is good at to persue, this can help express feelings, I write songs and poems, for example.
Hope that this helps,
All the best,
I had to edit a word out of your post, we are not to discuss suicide. Thanks for understanding my friend.
Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 7/22/2010 6:57:30 AM (GMT-6)