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   Posted 7/24/2010 4:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Seems like my depression recently is directly influenced by my family...that's how it was when I was younger too so this doesn't surprise me too much. The last time I posted I was depressed about my mom and our constant fighting/bickering. Happy to report that has mostly blown over, she's only "blown up" once for something stupid so far this week. Which is a lot better than almost every day. I've learned more to let her say what she's going to say, angry/hurtful/whatever and just take it as is and let it roll of my back. No use getting upset over stuff she most likely doesn't mean.

Anywho, the past few days I've been thinking a lot about my father's work schedule. His work information is "highly classified" and "really complicated" as he tells me whenever I ask, so that's all I will say about his line of work. =P He a dog basically. Every day. Usually from 5am to 7pm...well over 40 hours a week. His job is extremely stressful and tiring, I knew that already, but for the last couple months I've been seeing it on his face moreso than usual. He's exhausted and irritable a lot when he comes home, he's stressed to the max about work things and has a hard time leaving it at the office. He's overworked and the rest of his team has a lot less experience than he does, so I know he's been picking up the slack due to their lack of experience. But really that puts a lot more strain than is really needed on him. I've been having those pesky, worried thoughts about his health. He's in really good shape, but since I'm a psych major, of course I'm focused on all the "high stress leads to heart disease, lack of energy, chronic fatigue" stuff that I read in my health psych texts all the time.

Anyone have any tips on how I can...let go of these worrying thoughts? It's depressing me because I know he would rather have a lot more free time. I know he would like to spend more time with me and my mom, but he just can't due to work. He goes out for business about every other week and I know that messes with his health too... I'm trying to convince myself that since he's in good shape physically and emotionally that these things aren't wearing on him too much...but it's hard when he's my dad and I don't want to see anything happen to him.

Thoughts? Comments? I wish I could just be satisfied with him saying that he's doing okay..but when I see otherwise, it's hard to let go and not get upset or worried about his general health recently. Thanks for reading my rant, I feel a little better just typing it all out.

“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there”

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   Posted 7/24/2010 5:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Che,
It is so sweet that you are concerned about your father like you are.  But think of it this way, the more that you worry, the more stress on you.  So the thing that you are worried about him, is effecting you.  I think if you take this one day at a time, really enjoy the time that you do get to spend together, everything will work out for the best.   Be thankful (as I am sure that you are) for the time that you do get to spend together and that it seems to be that he enjoys what he is doing.  Though I am sure that he would much rather be spending time with family. 
Try to have faith that his health is good.  Mental and physical.  Believe that he is happy, even though he is busy.  And just do the best that you can.  Most of all, stop worrying.  It isn't doing anybody any good.  Especially not for you.  Take each day as it comes.
I am glad to read that you feel better just writing things down.  It is strange how that works.  I feel better typing things out.  I use to keep a journal on the computer, but now I can't remember how.  But I know that I always felt better when I was typing. 
Keep posting and keep us up to date as to what is going on with you.  I hope that you are having a wonderful day.
Hugs, Karen
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