I have the same problem, but since I got fibromyalgia, I have had an easier time saying "NO" than I use to. When somebody asks you to do something, really take the time to think about their question. Think about how it is going to effect YOU. Be a little selfish in this area. I still have a hard time with it, it doesn't mean that you are a wishy washy person or anything, you are just nice. But you do have to think of yourself first and foremost. So try that. Make sure you really think about the request, no quick answers. Take your time. It is your life after all.
I hope that this helps some. I did have to go to therapy over this. I was such a doormat that it wasn't funny. But I have learned now. I still have trouble when friends ask me over, I will say maybe, knowing all along that I am not going to go. I want to, I just don't have the energy I guess.
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