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   Posted 7/31/2010 10:03 PM (GMT -6)   
(Note: I do not have a degree in psychology, but I could be eligible for a couple awards in narcissism) As my name implies I use psychology in almost every aspect of my life and for some reason people have a tendency to open up with their problems to me and I can usually help them but there are a couple of instances where I am having a bit of trouble though I will not mention any names nor locations or any critical details about the person(s)

1: I have been talking to this person via internet forums/aol instant messenger for more than a year now and she is extremely depressed to the point that I have almost given up on trying to help her case. I beleive she is 21 years old. several of her friends have lied to her, screwed her over and all around taken advantage of her financially. She has problems with men sexually assaulting her at her job(As a waitress) but when I told her to file a police report(As it is the same people doing it over and over) she informed me that it is in fact a police officer committing this act. I suggessted for her to still report it and she shrugged it off feeling it wouldnt do much good. Shes always talking about her life sucking and her being such a bad person and not able to do anything right etc. and im at my witts end I cant think of anything more I can do to help her.

2: Ive been a handyman for some people for a while now, soon after my first few visits, the lady of the house informed me that her son had been getting beaten up at school a lot for being a "nerd". After I finished my duties as a handyman for the parents I went into the backyard with the son and showed him a few self defense moves, which seemed to null the problem out. Around a year later(Which would be earlier today). I noticed his Dad and Step-mother were riding him really hard, putting him down, telling him hes a screw up and cant do anything right. I pulled him to the side later and asked him what the deal was with it and he admitted that it has been going on for several years now. I was ready to confront the parents with this when the boy stopped me practically begging me not to talk to them about it for fear of his father, so I gave him my cellular phone number in case his father started beating him(The father seems to let alot of stress out on this particular son) and to call me any time that it happens. A short time later, after our short conversation he asked me if I think he should kill himself. This kid has me worried, hes 17 a lil chubby, but an altogether good kid and he told me that he thinks of me as "The big brother he always wanted". As I gave him my word I wouldnt get involved I dont want to call child services about it, but at the same time I cant just let something like the kid considering killing himself go by easily. What should I do here?

All help is appreciated, these are both very serious matters and I would rather not see any jokes made about it.

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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 8/1/2010 3:27 AM (GMT -6)   
hi,, its very hard to help someone if they dont take yr advice,what u have said to them is what i would also have said i think u have done all u can to help these people , im sorry i have been no help for u at all but i dont know what else u can do , take care


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   Posted 8/1/2010 6:50 AM (GMT -6)   
call the police, and cps. immediately. jamie.

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   Posted 8/1/2010 10:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Know that you have done the best that you can in both of these situations.  There are times when we can't do it all.  There are some people that have to step up for themselves and take action.  You have given good advice and you have tried your best.  Your first story makes me very angry because as a police officer he should not be harrassing this girl.  And I can see where she is afraid to persue this, but she needs to.
The second one, well, I go with Jamie's reply.  Call somebody.  But I know that you don't want to make it worse for this teenager. 
Remember you are only human.  You can be there for people but you can't fix everything.  Know that you are a good person for caring. 
Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/4/2010 12:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you all for the help, but I would like to keep this bumped to see any other opinions.
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