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Date Joined Aug 2010
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   Posted 8/16/2010 1:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone
i realize that there is NO magic pill, or button to press to solve depression.  it did not happen over night, it has taken several years to get here... so patiences is very important but after 18 months patience is harder to come by
things are good in my life.  family is good but there are many changes going on.  it all started when I was laid off last year, there was lots of idle time looking for a job.  it took 8 months but I got another job, but with 50% pay cut.  :(  then my wife was laid off, my son went off to college and now my daughter is leaving next week for college.  so we are empty nesters now.  i have been planning and preparing for this for quite some time but living it is a different story, i guess I am not as stong as I thought I was ....  
now dont eat or sleep very well, I do excersize.  but i just cant kick the sad crying spells that drive me craze... feeling worthless and cant concentrate i and limiting socialization and have no interested in ANYTHING anymore and I am a usually a pretty upbeat, happy guy.  i would really just like to have a good laugh.   i try to smile it just has no meaning.  how do you get out of these dark deep hole.  i have tried several meds but they dont seem to help.  this seems like it is a mental thing and meds my just be a mask not a solution
so... what advice can you give....  or how could I help you...

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   Posted 8/16/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,
Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum.  You have come to a good place.  Everybody here is very kind and compassionate. 
I have been on meds for many years and my depression has gone into remission.  That is what the psychiatrist has said anyway.  I feel like myself, I am happy most of the time.  Life isn't perfect by no means, but I don't think it is for anybody.  With therapy, I have learned coping skills.  So this helps a lot too.
I would suggest seeing your primary care physician.  Get a physical to make sure that there is nothing physical going on.  And discuss the way that you feel with him and see if that would help. 
If you don't want to get on medications, maybe counseling would be the way to go.  If you don't want to do that, there are many good books out on depression that might help you. 
I hope that you feel better soon.  Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.  Take care.
Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies
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