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Date Joined Feb 2003
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   Posted 8/16/2010 10:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Mine can be a long story so will shorten it the best I can, or give the RDV (Readers Digest Version).
Last May I was carrying the ironing board out to my dads garage.  I have gone up and down those 2 steps millions of times.  I somehow missed a step and fell.  Went to the ER the next morning as my left foot and wrist were killing me.  Told me I broke a bone in both.  Went to an ortho dr.  I ended up in a cast on my hand for 3 weeks and now in a splint.  Apparently I had broken the scaphoid bone in my wrist.  Well, it turns out they think it was an old fracture but I need surgery because it never healed.  I have it all set up for Sept. 3rd.  My best friend was set up to take me and bring me back to my dad's.  Somehow she got confused last week and said she could not take me as she was going to be out of town.  I happened to mention this to my boss in a conversation.  She said she would take me and bring me back to her house.  It was set up that I would stay Thur. night as have to be there at 6am on the 3rd, and then on Fri. nite.  I then planned to go to my dads.  He is almost 82 and has some form of dementia in the very early stages.  My sister moved back here to take a job and stay with him.  She is gone this week with her husband on vacation to Colorado.  She is suppose to go back home Labor Day weekend which is when I am having my surgery.  She said dad would be fine over the weekend.  Now she may not go due to being extremly busy at work.  It dawned on me over the weekend I would not be able to stay at my dads as I need to keep my hand elevated and my bed at his house is a twin.  So, I figured I would go back to my apt. at night that weekend.  In an e-mail to my boss last night and said that I was going back to my apt. Sat. nite.  She e-mailed back saying I was going to stay at their house until Tue.  I really appreciate it but am not really sure why.  I do not have a problem with it, however, I have never had anyone want to take care of me so this is totally new territory for me.  What worries me is that my sister is suppose to out of town and told me when I told her when the surgery is, that dad would be perfectly fine over the weekend.  But sometimes she changes her mind.  At the moment she does not think she will be leaving due to work.  If she decides to go I am afraid she will get really upset if I spend the weekend at my bosses house.  The only reason I can come up with for her wanting me to stay there is that she knows me too well, and knows that I don't take care of myself and if I start feeling ok, I will go out and do things with my friends.  I do not think my sister cares for my bosses, which is fine.  She does not care for most of my friends and that is fine too.  However, I can't handle her getting upset and yelling at me.  I don't want her to plan to go and then won't because I will not be around.  I just do not know what to do anymore.

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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 8/17/2010 3:30 AM (GMT -6)   
seems as though your boss is the only true person avail 2 you. and you need care. take it. hoping you feel better soon. sorry about your accident. must have been qiute painful. with healings i send, jamie.

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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 8/17/2010 9:09 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with Jamie. Sounds like your boss is the only one that's looking out for you now and completely available to watch out for you. I would take her help and her hospitality graciously and hope everything works out for the best. Don't worry about what your sister is doing right now. You've got your health to worry about and working yourself up about what she might and might not do is probably going to make you feel worse.

Good luck with the surgeries!

"Dreams don't always have to exist while the sun's down
and your eyes are shut."
-Alex Gaskarth

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Date Joined Aug 2010
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   Posted 8/17/2010 1:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Boss sounds nice, if your injured you can't help it, its not your fault and stop beating up yourself, if your sister shouts at you because your ingured then don't worry about it, I would shout back , to be honest you don't need that type of family. Not saying throw her aside but put her aside for now. Whats the worst a little yelling, either stand up for yourself or put up with it. God I think what suffering I have seen people really go through and what some people call suffering because they have not had it worse.
If people don't care about you regardless of whether they are family or not then don't give two hoots about them.
Depressive people let other people get to them too much, far too sensitive we make ourselves victims in a way, think about it. If we stood up for ourselves didn't let others get to us we would be much happier. xxx

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Date Joined Aug 2010
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   Posted 8/17/2010 7:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Be thankful you have your boss (although I'm sure you are :)) ... sometimes people come into our lives for a reason. Maybe this is your time to finally stand up to your sister and be firm for yourself and ... if you do, we often anticipate things to be much worse than they actually will be. I'm sure the arguement you're anticipating between yourself and her will be far less severe and you'll be so relieved to have finally stood up for yourself. good luck in whichever choice you make :)
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