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   Posted 8/17/2010 1:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Fighter of depression, find reading some peoples complaints can make one feel depressed its contageous, not sure it helps one not really.
When ever I feel that crapty I just dwell of those less fortunate than me to give myself a kick up the backside and stop myself feeling sorry for myself not that I feel I have ever done that.
Say I have food, clothes a roof over my heads, I don't have to go begging around or being under the thumb because I am dependant on others.
Yes it could be loads worse if you think about it.
Lonely don't have anyone per say in my life then think about when I did have someone control freak, possessive, played mind games and with my confidence, wife beater, child beater, compulsive liar, heart breaker, turned everyone against me, saw me out of my home and his children, so bitter even 3 years after the split, guess he kept it up but hey all is good I am single but free without all that baggage crap so I am truly blessed. Rather be single all my life than go back to that. Probly affected me deeply more than I think since I have never considered another relationship ever.
Not short of admirers, men looking for girlfriends, wifes, partners but its difficult once one gets used to being alone.
Was feeling fine till I read a few depressive messages and thought what ...omg one crying over a girl who he never met while playing games on line lol omg and a 20 yr kid, they don't know how lucky they are. Another well poor person injured themselves but god dam it no one to come and look after him/her thats bad.....well I have no one too so know whats that like thank god the boss has offered. I find good people get depressed but weak people who let others get to them. We have been programmed that way.
People are always trying to mess with my head I usualy try and keep well away from them.
Going to watch eastenders now....sorry if its boring. xxx

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   Posted 8/17/2010 3:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Joojpee,

Yes others do have it worse than some of us, but we are here to support everybody. If you keep reading you will see that.

I am fortunate, my depression has been in remission. I have worked hard to get it that way. Changed some of my thinking process and take medications. But all in all, I feel pretty good.

We do have to count our blessings though. We should concentrate on what we do have going for us. So I can see your standpoint. But do have compassion for those of us who can't cope because of this horrible disease called depression.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/17/2010 8:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Joopjee,

I have to agree with you but also disagree as not every has the same mental strength as others do, some people can survive a few years of abuse and others barely weeks. Your right when you say we should consider what we have but at the same time when your that low, it truly feels like nothing as well think of it like this what's life if you cant be happy? Is that not the point in life to be happy?
I've always just gotten on with things not moaning or *****ing about my REAL problems i'd complain but never about the stuff that mattered. Who is the stronger person the one who gets the help he needs or the loner who takes everything on themselves? Then again whos being smarter?

You do get used to being alone I can understand that and after so long letting others in feels maybe like a invasion, that your being suffocated at times atleast that how it felt for me as any grand show of emotions still feels really odd and alien to me as it was something that never happened.

I find if possible at least once a day try and compliment your self in atleast one way try to feel better about being you and focus on atleast one good thing.
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