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   Posted 8/17/2010 9:09 PM (GMT -6)   
This is my first post here.  I have suffered from depression off and on(mostly on) probably since I was a teenager.
I take pristiq and it works---when i take it.  When ever I get to feeling better, I tend to think that I do not need the medication after all.  Well, as you all probably know, it does not work like that.
During the past year and half, I have been through a lot of family drama; mostly with my daughter who is an alcholic.  As far as I can tell she has been without a drink for over a year.  I know when she has been drinking because when she is, she has the need to call me and rant and rave at me.  This has not happened for some time.  So, therefore I am sure she is not drinking.
She is divorced( little over a year now) and is getting married to a man that is old enough to be her father.  I know this is her life and i cannot control what she does with her life.
Next thing on my depression list is my husband's health.  His health is very, very poor.  He suffers from emphysema and COPD.  We make frequent trips to the emergency room due to his respiratory problems.  Every morning when I wake up, I check to make sure he is still breathing.  
And last, but not least----our dog that we had for 13 years died 2 months ago.  This I think was the staw that pushed me into the deep dark hole of depression.  Everyone tells me to get another dog.   But I am so concerned with my husband's health, I feel this should be top priority.
I hate this feeling of being depressed.  My husband does not understand.  He thinks that if we just get in the car and go for an ice cream cone, all will be better.  Well, first of all, I do not even want to get dressed for an ice cream cone event!!!!  Plus, I do not need the ice cream.  I tend to gain weight when I am depressed, which depresses me even more. 
So, here I am, talking to total strangers on the internet about my depression.   

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Date Joined Aug 2010
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   Posted 8/17/2010 9:19 PM (GMT -6)   
It might sound cheesey but, if you're comfortable, you might want to give your husband information on depression.. especially anything that illustrates that it is just a state of mind. You need to find a group of stable people around you that know what you're going through and can guide you along the way and offer you hope and comfort.

I'm glad that you have a medication that works and I hope you remember to take it! You have friends here.


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   Posted 8/18/2010 3:13 AM (GMT -6)   
From personal experience I would have to convey this information to you: You can't only worry about everyone elses problems sometimes you just have to take a load off and do something for yourself, get a new dog itll help close the wound left by your previous dogs passing. And look on the brightside, your daughter is getting married AND she has stopped drinking. Im sorry to hear about your husband my prayers go out to him and the rest of your family and you. Hope it helped

-The Narcissist

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   Posted 8/18/2010 9:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Try to take this one day at a time. I know it sounds trivial, but it really works. Try not to dwell on the past or worry about the future. And try to spend quality time with your husband even if you don't really feel up to it. It will do you both good.

It might be good to talk to a counselor about your concerns about your husband. You need the extra support. And keep posting here, we have a lot of caring members who would love to talk to you.

Take care my friend, and yes, try to remember your meds. I take pristiq and I think it is a good antidepressant. I also take abilify, which is a mood stabilizer, and goes good with the pristiq. Take xanax also for anxiety.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 8/19/2010 2:10 AM (GMT -6)   
the best way of taking care of hubby is for you to take care of you. maybe some respite assistance is needed.
i am sorry for your loss. jamie.
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