Strikes me that you guys are definitely not in the couch potato "Comfort" Zone - you're well into the Growth Zone. I salute you !
Lauren fairly hit the nail on the head I thought, with the glass being half-full. Don't only count the things you get wrong or find hard - look at the things you already know or are learning. You can't ignore your problems, but to judge your progress it surely helps to check the odometer on a regular basis.
Laine, if a man as downright rabbit-in-headlights-like as me can end up with someone, I cannot help but feel you too must have a chance to end up with someone in the end. I mean, you're reaching out and touching folk here, right ?