Situation at Work - Any words of wisdom??

I have a situation at work where I'm not sure what to do. My director was moved to a different area a little over a year ago. Not long after she was over there she asked me to transfer over. I decided to do it, so I went. The area was in a chaotic state and I was thrown in to some projects that had gone astray. I've been there a little over a year now and have gotten to know the area, the people and the work. I was out of work for about six weeks due to severe depression. I told her it would help me to not lead project, but to help support them for a while until I got things under control. About a month ago she asked me if I could start doing work for another office that she is over. I told her yes, because I got the feeling that she needed me to do the job. I have since been doing some work for these people and am finding it difficult be again I working with new people, systems, products.

I've been getting more depressed lately and I'm afraid this will just make it worse. I'm also afraid of letting them down. My boss always tells people how great I am and I don't know if I can live up to their needs and expectations. They have already sent me information on many projects. I am almost done with one and starting a second. My boss did tell them they could not give me work without going through her first. I just wish I could stay in an area where I feel fairly comfortable and the area I worked in previously is across the street. I was in that area for almost 10 years. I don't know if I should just "grin and bear it" or if I should say something. I am suppose to move over there next week. I cringe everytime I get an email from them.

Any suggestions?

Thx - Terri

 

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Terri B

hi~i dont assume to know anything about work...seeing that i haven't yet, but my mom always is telling me about issues with her boss and people at her work, assignments, etc. It has helped her over the years (she too has transfered) to talk to her boss about issues with work. But also at some point it seems like you have to grin and bear it, you know? If it gets to the point where you just can not deal with it, then you should definetly talk to someone. It is more in your favor AND theirs that you don't have another "attack" of severe depression. Remember to live up to your standards not anyone eleses, that will come if you just meet the specifics of your job (i.e. turning assignments in on time, etc.) I have faith that you will get through all of this, maybe you should just find a place to permanently settle down in your job. It seems as if your moving more for your BOSS, not for YOU. I hope you feel better soon, "the glass is half full" hehe.

Lauren (Teenager)

                                                                                    

     Hi Sadgirl2,

                 Sorry to here about your work delema.  I don't think you have given your new position enough time to get adjusted.  If your boss didn't think you could do a good job they wouldn't have offered it to you.  On the other hand if you really believe it is starting to affect your health maybe you should go back to where you were most comfortable.

           How I wish I could find another job with more hours.  I have plenty to do but I spend most of my time pondering over why I hate my life so much. Comparing the present to a year ago, nothing has really changed. Truth is I am afraid to file for divorce, don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I have emotionally and physically withdrawn from the marraige since last year so I guess it can't be much different.              

           I sincerely hope things will get better for you  .       

                                    Laine

Hi Laine,

Happy to hear from you. I did meet with my boss. I am going to take on the new work, but I am going to monitor it so that it doesn't get too overwhelming. And, she said I can still work in my current office 1-2 days a week.

Also, I had a rough weekend at home, ending up with some holes in the wall. I think I need to make some decisions myself regarding divorce and start figuring out finances and how I can do this on my own.

I hate to do it, but I really think it will be the best thing in the long run. Some we just both need some strength to do what we need to do, right?

Keep in touch,

Terri

 

Strikes me that you guys are definitely not in the couch potato "Comfort" Zone - you're well into the Growth Zone. I salute you !

Lauren fairly hit the nail on the head I thought, with the glass being half-full. Don't only count the things you get wrong or find hard - look at the things you already know or are learning. You can't ignore your problems, but to judge your progress it surely helps to check the odometer on a regular basis.

   Laine, if a man as downright rabbit-in-headlights-like as me can end up with someone, I cannot help but feel you too must have a chance to end up with someone in the end. I mean, you're reaching out and touching folk here, right ?

   

            Hi Terri,

                     I am so glad to here about your work options.  Sounds like you have a very understanding boss.

                    Hopefully this weekend will be better than the last one! 

                              Laine

 

         Snohare,

                   You're words of wisdom are greatly appreciated. You have a tendency to turn my neg. thoughts around and motivate me to think more positively .

                        Many  Thanks           

                          seekingsupport

Laine, Snohair, Ralph,

I enjoy talking to you all so much. It makes my day so much better. I'm trying to get myself in a more positive mood. I hope you all have a great weekend too.

Talk to you soon.

Terri