depression caused by a love triangle

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   Posted 8/23/2010 7:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there everyone,
I have fallin for this guy a year and a half ago. But he had an ex girl friend living with him causing major problems trying to be with him. I have been waiting and waiting for him to give me a chance. He loves me and feels strongly for me. We would be in a relationship now, but his ex is still in the picture and he doesnt know who to pick. He does spend most of his time with me, and helps me out a lot with everyday problems. were always there for each other, but waiting and feeling like I am not good enough choosing me over his ex is taking a toll on my heart. Everytime I try to back off to take a break and see if I can take myself out of the situation. He always has a way of drawing me back in to him. I dont know what to do, and its causing my depression to return.  but I need help, I dont know what to do, where to start, or how to help myself in this situation. I love him to death and want to be with him. but theres nothing i can do to force him to be with me. i want him to choose me and want to be with me without regretting not choosing his girl friend. I need to know if im missing out in a way to move on or what to do. i dont feel good enough and getting feelings and thoughts of  just giving up and giving in to pain and sadness. Please help, please try and give me your honest opinion.

Girl with a broken heart

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   Posted 8/23/2010 8:01 PM (GMT -6)   
You need to get on with your life instead of waiting for him to make a decision.  You act like it is some kind of a contest.  Well that isn't saying much for the way that you look at yourself.  You are better than that.  See a counselor and get a life of your own.  Do you have kids? 
Hugs Karen
Why is his ex living with him anyway?  That should tell you something right there.  If he isn't going to get her to move out, he isn't going to move on with his life either.
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   Posted 8/23/2010 10:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Liljessyr

Sweetheart, I think you know deep down what to do and that is to kick him to the kerb. How long has he had to choose who he wants? It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too to me. I would give him an ultimatum, you can't sit around waiting for the rest of your life for him to make up his mind.

Don't let him drag you down, give him the ultimatum and see what he does.

I hope you will keep posting and let us know how you are going.
Kind Regards

Harrington 49
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