Husband at it again

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wearyRAsufferer
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   Posted 9/17/2010 12:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Crap- it lasted for a good 1 1/2 weeks of getting along well then something happened Tue. he didn't come home straight from work and he went to his drinking buddies house instead. Think (but don't know) maybe he and his wife opened their mouths about me saying I have had it with being treated bad and I don't feel trapped into staying married anymore because the kids are all grown and I am self supporting. He's been  very curt ever since.  Wed. is my groc. shopping night after work and he went hunting with same buddy and did not get home until after all the groceries were carried in past 8:30 PM (I work 9 hrs. a day and that's 3 hrs of shopping after I'm done. my body is killing me- especially my feet by that time. Luckily my son was home to help.  Yesterday he called me at work (he works out of home (barely) & about 1 hr. in the evening and is in charge of the cooking. He angrily asked if I knew where the can opener was. I said yes I brought it to work that day because I had a can of soup for lunch which did not have a pop top. Told him we have a manual one in the drawer. No we don't he said so I can't cook! Hung up on me. Cripe we never eat anything out of a can so I don't even know what he had planned on making. When I got home no meat had been defrosted or anything....I made myself a sandwich. Last night I was so tired after I exercised I fell asleep on the couch- he came home at 8 PM which woke me up. So he was out again. I got so sick of seeing him sit there with a smug look on his face that I left. I had no where to go so I got gas and then walked around a dept. store for awhile. I never do that. Today I see I had a missed call from home at 9:15 but he didn't leave a message. He was already in bed when I got home about 9:30.
This morning he went hunting at 3:30 Am and left me a note saying pick up take out for 2 on my way home from work. I guess he is hunting all day & night and will not be cooking. I left a note back- nah I don't feel like eating take out I'll make myself another sandwich if you aren't cooking.
I'm trying not to let this escalate because I have a milestone B'day next week and I don't want it to be miserable. :( But it will be. It always is.....

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   Posted 9/17/2010 2:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Try not to let this get to you. I think it is best if you try to ignore it. When hunting season is over, if he is still acting this way, then maybe you should have a talk with him. They are always like this during hunting season. Sorry guys. But I think it is a man thing.

Try not to be pesimistic about your birthday. It could turn out to be a good one. And I hope it is a happy one.

Take care my friend.

Hugs, Karen
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wearyRAsufferer
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   Posted 9/17/2010 2:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Too much testosterone is that what you are saying Karen? :) Too bad hunting season is from now thru Feb.......

I'm trying not to let it get to me and to remember that I do have a 5 year plan I can put in place.....

wearyRAsufferer
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   Posted 9/17/2010 2:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for answering Karen and where o where were my manners? How are you doing?

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   Posted 9/17/2010 2:56 PM (GMT -6)   
I am doing fine. Nothing spectacular, but not bad. This not smoking is killing me, but hoping to start feeling better healthwise soon. It has been almost four weeks.

Thanks for asking. I didn't know that the hunting season lasted so long. I know that small game started the 15th. Then comes deer season in November. I use to hunt and fish. And yes, I do think testosterone comes into play with all this. It is their thing, ya know...

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wearyRAsufferer
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   Posted 9/17/2010 5:55 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm trying- with a little help from "our friends" (here) we'll all be fine! Love you guys!
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