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   Posted 9/19/2010 2:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I guess this is just a lame introduction of myself, but I have no idea what to say... so i will not bother talking about myself.

My question is what is an alternative to ? I know thats a really dumb question, but I need ideas on how to stop.

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 9/19/2010 7:29:32 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/19/2010 5:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to our forum.

I used to do what you are talking about, but have not done it in 16+ years. The key is to love yourself enough not to do it. Every time you get the urge - go to a mirror and tell yourself, out loud, that you are lovable. Trust me, this works. Work up to saying other nice things to yourself. "I am........."
I care about what you are doing - please care about you too.
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   Posted 9/19/2010 8:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,
I am sorry but we aren't suppose to discuss self harm on this forum, so I had to edit your post.  Though I think that it is very important to get help.  You have been given some good advice.  It is hard, I know.  I have been there.  And learning to love yourself is very important. 
If you google "don't cut" on the internet, it will take you to some good sites.  So give that a try.  Other than that, counseling is good.  You have to learn self control.  We all have it, we just have to tap into it.
Best wishes,
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   Posted 9/19/2010 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   

A warm welcome to the board,

I can guess what you are talking about, and it's great you asked the question. I have one for you though, (and you don't need to tell me, as long as you know the answer for you)

Why do you want to stop?

When you know the answer to that, this will be your motivating factor to infact stop.

For me, I started working with at risk teens, I wanted to stop because I didn't want the kids to think that it was an ok behaviour. Everytime I wanted to ?, I had to remind myself why I could not allow that to be an option.

I hope that helps a little bit, and I hope you stick around a little bit, it is always good to see new people posting.

Good luck with your journey

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   Posted 9/19/2010 11:46 AM (GMT -6)   
I have heard of this because a friend of mine's daughter does this...but I never understood it. I couldn't figure out what someone gets out of it. So I just googled it and I found this below. It had some tips which I'm not sure whether or not it would help what you are going through but thought it couldn't hurt to post it.
I wish you all the best with finding peace in your life.

The biggest issue with endorphins. Most people don't connect the 2 when they cut. They think that the  is what makes them feel better, when in most cases it's simply the endorphins - which a can become addicted to.

If you're a  and you're like to stop, here are a few things that you can try. If you know a cutter who is open and willing to talk about it, bring up these things:

Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Not a tight one, one that fits just a little snug. Every time you feel the need to, simply snap the rubber band. This is basically a way to wean yourself , almost like the patch or gum for smokers. You still get the pain, which releases endophins, but you're not cutting into your own skin - which not only leaves scars, but can cause damage as well.

Eat a little bit of DARK chocolate everyday. Not a lot, just a little. Dark chocolate is known to release endorphins. Which is probably why women often crave chocolate when we're emotional. If you like hot or spicey food - eat a hot pepper. Hmmm - that could be a reason why it seems like so many men like hot foods!

Get scared - watch a horror movie that you know is really scary, read a horror book, if you're interested in ghosts you can even find out if there is a local ghosts investigation group that you might be able to join - this may not be a quick fix, but if you go on investigations and your heart races you're naturally releases the endorphins.

Get moved by something - this is for those who love nice art work, or poetry, even those old movies that they don't make any more. Then you're emotionally touched and moved by something it gives you the feel good attitude. If you're the type of person who likes to help others (people or animals) you can even volunteer your time somewhere once a week.

Exercise - ever hear of "runners high"? Wonder how come those who run or exercise are seriously into it? It releases endorphins. When you get upset, go for a run or jog until you can't run or jog anymore, do jumping jacks until you can't jump, if you're by yourself turn on some music with a good beat and dance until you can't dance. Heck, you can even clean until you have to sit down and take a breath. If you have a dog, take it for a walk - animals can also help make us happy and calm us down, so this is a 2 for 1 deal.

Gossip. And we all thought those people were just being rude and immature! :-) For some odd reason, when you gossip it releases endorphins. Probably because humans love to hear bad things about others .... who knows why. If you have a friend who loves to gossip, or a family member, give them a call. You don't even have to tell them why you're calling. Just talk to them and let them do what they do naturally - gossip!

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 9/19/2010 10:55:28 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/19/2010 12:00 PM (GMT -6)   
This thread has been locked because administration does not want self harm discussed. 
WearyRAsufferer, I had to edit a lot of the content of your post because of the rules.  But I do think that you gave a lot of good advice and I tried to leave as much as I could.  I honestly wish that this topic could be discussed as so many people are suffering from it.  But we have people as young as 13 on the forum and the administration wants it to be family friendly and I can understand that.  I honestly wish that we had more resources for this, and I am going to look for some. 
I find the endorphine topic to be really interesting and I think all parties involved should study this.  But enough has been said, so I shall get off of the topic.  Thank you in advance for understanding why I had to lock this thread.
Hugs, Karen
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