Trying to help my wife

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Date Joined Feb 2005
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   Posted 2/1/2005 11:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone. I am here to try to help my wife. She has clinical depression  and is afraid to even go on to this chat room. So here I am. She knows and admits she has clinical depression. Her personal doctor has prescribed her Zoloft and Xanax, which she has been taking for about 1 1/2 weeks now. She is upset that it (Zoloft) is not helping, and I try to reassure her that it will eventually take hold and help her. As for the Xanax, she is frightened that she will become addicted (had a family member that was) and waits until she has been afraid, in a panic, and depressed for hours before she takes only half a pill. I am trying to be as supportive as I can, but need more direction so I can help her. Or maybe after her reading some responses, she will actually get on here herself, as I can't fully understand what she is going through.

Post Edited (Greenman145) : 9/8/2006 7:06:02 PM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Jan 2005
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   Posted 2/2/2005 1:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Sounds like she has a serious case. If she does not get help by a professional therapist in addition to the medicine she will only become worse. Take my word for it, my whole family tree has psychological problems and that lead me to get a 4 yr. degree in psychology which I have just finished. There are state funded programs that are offered, where you might not have to pay anything because they go by the amount of money you make called a slider scale. You can call any psychiatrist or psychologist and ask them who you can contact to get help because of your financial situation. Some medications do not work for some people, depending on their genetic makeup. Relaxing techniques that she can do at home for stress, anxiety, depression, and tension relief are yoga and controlled breathing exercises, this will help control the messeges being sent by the brain because of the extra oxygen being supplied through exercise and concentration. It works, just ask any health professional, even though some people look at it as being silly. There are several websites that tell you how to do these exercise including this one. But I would defintely get her into a program with a female psy. therapist. I've been to one myself and it's no big deal, it just like a regular checkup at a doctor. They don't make you take any verbal or written test or nothing like that. The worker will just ask you about your symptoms and talk to you like a friend and set up a few sessions to help you cope with everyday life. My therapist kinda reminded me of my grandma, I always looked forward to going to her office, she was very kind, soft spoken, just a warm loving person and she even sends me cards every now, just to check and see how I'm doing. Hope this helps

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   Posted 2/2/2005 7:16 AM (GMT -6) were given some very sound advice from maylove.........I too had to go to a therapist with my 9 year old daughter (her bio father had just passed away and she was trying to deal with my illnesses as well)As mentioned above we too went to a female therapist and were able to just sit and chat with her .The only perc here (in Canada) is that these sessions are free as per our o.h.i.p.Your wife is in serious need of help and you need support as well.I am a retired R.N. and I totally agree with maylove regarding medications working for some and not others as well as doing the relaxation techniques.for me the deep breathing works really good (I also imagine myself in a warm beautiful stress free place:something I have imagined or somewhere I have been) this does work for me .For me my worst times where when I literally COULD NOT open the door and go out,I stayed in the house and cried all the time,but eventually my younger brother intervened and got me to a I had a young daughter that was begininning to show signs of emotional distress because of my illnesses and seeing me go from totally active to hardly active in a very short time period. I am mostly on the Crohns forum but I do check this forum out as well.I can only suggest that you keep coming back here and posting.eventually you wife might feel comfortable to do it as well.............REMEMBER yous are never alone...HW is a family that empathizes and embraces you.May God Bless
  We Are Not Made Rich By What Is In Our Pockets..........But By What Is In Our unknown..............LYN

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