im gay and im in love with a straight boy

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daniel2010
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   Posted 9/26/2010 12:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, im 16 and in school and im gay and most people know and theyre ok about it. a few months ago i started to get feelings for a boy in the year above me and before long i fell in love with him. i started to talk to him and try my best to get him to like me.and eventually i told him how i felt which was a mistake. he got very angry at me and since then has started to be very nasty and he hits me and threatens me all the time. ive become really scared of him now which is really awful for me because i love him.he makes school horrible for me and i beg him everyday to understand but he hates gay people.i tell him i just want to be friends but he hates me. the situation is awful and i hate going into school. i wish i would never have fallen in love with him because its just been too hard. please help me, thanks xx

getting by
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   Posted 9/26/2010 1:07 PM (GMT -6)   
It sounds like you should forget about this boy. I know that it is hard, but you are going to have to face the fact that he doesn't want anything to do with you. I hate to sound so blunt. But the sooner you face it, the easier it will be for you.

I am sorry for what you are going through.  Have you googled "gay teens"?  Because there is a lot of information there, and perhaps you could find some support.

Hugs, Karen
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daniel2010
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   Posted 9/26/2010 2:08 PM (GMT -6)   
getting by said...
It sounds like you should forget about this boy. I know that it is hard, but you are going to have to face the fact that he doesn't want anything to do with you. I hate to sound so blunt. But the sooner you face it, the easier it will be for you.

I am sorry for what you are going through. Have you googled "gay teens"? Because there is a lot of information there, and perhaps you could find some support.

Hugs, Karen

Thanks Karen. i know i should forget about him but whenever i try i just cant i think about him all the time, i will try harder though. its just that i have to see him everyday and its difficult. it makes even worse the fact he hates me.

tatt2man
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   Posted 10/17/2010 4:39 AM (GMT -6)   
daniel -
- at your age love is often confused with lust and liking and admiring and ... a whole bunch of stuff ... those raging hormones get us all confused as we search for our own identity as a complete human being - as well as for someone to share our life with...
- since we don't know the other guy, we don't know if he really hates you, or is just saying that to protect himself from other people calling him gay or XXXXX or xxx ( you get my drift)....
- when things calm down, he may be able to be a friend - but for now - give him as much space as he needs.

-you will get through this -

sincere hugs
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annie.d12345
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   Posted 10/17/2010 5:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Daniel,
How are you?Hope a bit better since the time you posted. I'm sorry to hear that the boy you feel for doesn't feel the same way about you. It's hard to accept that people don't feel the same for us when we feel so much for them. It saddens me that the boy thinks low about you because you are gay. It's who you are,right? It's ok for him not to feel the same for you but don't let him degrade you for being who you are.
It's hard but try to see the fact that everyone else has accepted you and is okay with it,than why not this guy? Shouldn't he support you and understand that it's hard for you. Maybe he is still young to deal with a situation like this and he freaked out. But the way you would like to respected for your choice,you should respect his too.
Leave him alone,and let him go. You are stil young. You have a lot to learn and experience in life.
If you love someone truly,let them go. Be happy to have done something for them,that makes their life a bit better,even if it is by your absence. Please don't thin I don't understand I do,but I care for you more. And you need to get out of the shell and stand up for yourself.
None has the right to hurt you or make you feel low,because of something you have no control over.

Take Care of yourself.

here for you.

hugs,
Annie.
“Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to”

Annie

buglet90
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   Posted 10/17/2010 8:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Daniel,

I come from a very small town, so I don't know a whole lot about gays or ***s, but I figure it doesn't take a whole lot to understand. When anyone's feelings get hurt, it doesn't matter the sexual orientation, it hurts all the same.

I broke up with a guy that I thought that I loved. I didn't think it would hurt very bad because it was my decision...I was wrong. I would curl up in a ball because it felt like if I didn't all of my insides would spill out.

I imagine that you are going something similar to that. Although it might be worse for you because you have to see him daily. I really hope that you can build yourself back up. I'm sorry that you are going through this

Buglet90

lola222
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   Posted 10/18/2010 3:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Daniel,
 
I hope your problem has been resolved already, but if not then I hope I can help.  I think you need to talk to someone in school about this, like a guidance counselor or a teacher.  This guy shouldn't be hitting you or abusing you in anyway, regardless of what he may feel about gay people.  Are you out to your parents? Have you talked to them about what he is doing to you?  I'm really concerned about how he is doing to you because no one has any right to harm you!
 
As to your problem with not being able to fall out of love with him, you will eventually.  I know it may seem like the end of the world, but trust me it's not.  It may hurt right now, but eventually you'll forget about him.  I think he doesn't deserve to have a person like you as a friend because he doesn't realize how great you are. 
 
Try and avoid him and don't attempt to get him to agree to be friends with you.  He's closeminded and not worth your time.
 
The main thing is GET HELP.  It can be from someone in or outside of school, but this abuse needs to stop!
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