If social anxeity is making you sick and isolated then it is time to change the behavior. You have all of us here in the forum to support you with your change.
Even if you tend to see the negative or look at life with pessimistic eyes it is possible to change your viewpoint. Learn to love yourself as you are a very important person and deserving of happiness. Self-love may be the greatest and most important love you ever experience in this lifetime.
A way to enhance self-love and self-esteem is to be aware of your self-talk (those things that you say to yourself inside your head). Speak to yourself in ways that are more kind, and less mean or abusive. Many of us have very harsh inner critics: When we make a mistake, this critical voice inside our head beats up on us, saying things like, "That was so stupid! ... I can't do anything right! ... What a loser!" We need to replace these negative messages with other, more positive ones. For example, "I made a mistake. That's okay: That is how I learn. I'll know better the next time." With awareness, over time, you can "catch yourself" when your self-talk is negative, and change the message to something more positive and "ego-enhancing."
I am my own worse enemy on a bad day and if I keep beating myself up I am bound to feel depresssed and wonder at my purpose here in the world. This is when I get out my paper and pen and write down all of my achievements - no matter how important or how simple.
Please learn to accept yourself and stick with us.
~~Kitt~~Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease. www.healingwell.com"If you can't change the world, change your world"