7 months pregnant on my own

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kishaya
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   Posted 9/29/2010 5:14 PM (GMT -6)   
hi...im 7mths pregnant my live in boyfriend had been incarcerated for 18 months and relaeased dec 2009...since he came out he was living with me and we planned the pregnancy...he currently finished an immigration case where he is awaiting a written response of whether or not he will be deported...my boyfriend who is now i guess not my boyfriend has now told me he no longer wants a relationship with me and he just want to be there for our child who will be arriving in 2months..i am having a really hard time coping with this almost to the point where i am crying every single day, practically begging for him to give us a chance while he tells me he no longer loves me.
he has recently moved in with a friend and comes bck and forth however he doesnt sleep at my house anymore . he has a key and has most of his stuff there but doesnt come home,...i dont know how to get over this....and i really need help as to how to let go as i feel i am losing myself.

kati2010
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   Posted 9/29/2010 9:49 PM (GMT -6)   
do not think about him! think about baby and you, this is easy to say but, be excited to be a mom, plenty of fish out there.

Trying to Understand
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   Posted 9/30/2010 12:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry this happened to you. This may be the best thing that could have happened however. He was in prison, not good, may be sent out of the country, not good, ambivalent in his feelings for you, very cut and dry attitude. I've been thru a few serious relationships, and there is nothing worse than realizing that your spouse or significant other is very half-hearted about you. Later you will see that they were very insincere from the start, you were head over heels in love. The good news is, you will find someone better. Don't rush.
If he's not a financial or emotional help, tell him to move out, and give back the key. He might think this set up is just peachy. Its not. Get rid of him. He let you down big time.
Enjoy this time that you are pregnant. Get some photos of your big belly , smiling and laughing. I love showing my kids what it was like for me when I was pregnant. I want them to know that they were wanted. I know its uncomfortable, but I would give my right arm to feel my baby (ies) moving inside me, to hold that tiny little bundle close, smell that new baby smell. Surround yourself with friends and happy people. Enough crying. Keep posting. We care about you.

stkitt
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   Posted 9/30/2010 7:49 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to the Depression Board and to HealingWell. We're glad you're here. You're in a very dark place right now and it's hard and lonely. But everything will be okay with time. You need someone to talk to and we can fulfill that hole for you to some extent, so it's good you found us.

Coping with a  relationship breakup of any kind can be very painful, and most people go through this experience at some point in their lives. But the challenges posed by such a deep loss can be turned into opportunities, enabling you to not only survive, but also thrive. Learn to understand your feelings and develop tools to cope with your relationship breakup.

Let the tears come as they are healing.  Now put you and your baby first and just get through one day at a time.  Stay in the moment as you cannot go backwards in time.

I wish you all the very best,

Kitt 

 
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wolflover
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   Posted 9/30/2010 1:03 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sooo sorry kishaya, for what has happened. I wish I could go back in time and keep him from ever speaking to you. That is so sad, of course you are sad.He was obviously not rite for you. It sounds like he just used you. I would Never commit to having a baby with someone who couldn't commit to marrying me first. I think that would have been a clue.Why would you want to create life with someone who wasn't committed to you first? that is confusing to me. What is done is done though. My sister got preagnant at 17 by her abusive boyfriend. she met a great guy while she was still pregnant. He took in her baby as if it was his own. She is now 31 and they have been happily married for 13 years and had one of there own. There are other men out there. I hope your baby can bring you joy.I know it will be extremely hard on your own. there is a life growing inside you and your boyfriend may say he doesn't love you anymore, but the baby will love you. hope it will all be ok soon. You and your soon to be newborn are in my prayers.

stkitt
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   Posted 10/1/2010 10:49 AM (GMT -6)   
 
Just checking in to see how you are doing and if you have time post us a note.  We are here for you.
Gentle Hugs,
Kitt

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Trying to Understand
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   Posted 10/1/2010 2:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Dearest Kishaya,
Hey, what's up? Hope you're having a little better time of it everyday.
Did you get someone to snap a few photos of the growing belly?
You must be getting "big" now. Soon you'll have a baby to love, love, love.
Feel good. Eat good food for the baby, and get lots of rest.
Please post.
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