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stkitt
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   Posted 10/6/2010 9:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Posted by Gub  Posted Yesterday 10:49 PM (GMT -6) 
 
I feel useless as well. Its smothering me. Im 29 but I feel like life is over already. If only it were that easy. To leave life behind, no more problems. I cant do that though, there is to much in life that interests me. None of these interests have led to a career, or even a low paying, why bother job. everyone says i talk myself down. i dont really notice me doing that, if i am at all, which im starting to think i just might be. i have no confidence anymore, not that i ever had much to begin with. maybe something might change in my life soon that will make things ok. not holding my breath but hey, stranger things have happened. its actually comforting to know there are other plp in the world who feel just as i do. trapped, alone, useless. no one should have to feel this way. i know this is asking to much but i want it stopped now. however it happens, stop it now. almost thirty years of this is tearing me apart. i dont even like myself, havent in a long time. i dont have to tell yall that isnt kewl. where does this feeling come from? why am i so useless? how can plp with greater set backs do more in life than ive ever managed? is it life itself? is it really all my fault? could something have been done to help us sooner in life so we never had to "live" like this? are my friends and family better off without me? my mind is awash with questions like this every moment of every day. im tired of asking them but they never stop forming in my mind. i hope this site can help me for ive lost hope in finding it elsewhere. thanks NiceCupOfTea for explaining how this feels so well. thanks for not leaving the world, for sticking it out. thanks for helping me feel like maybe if just one of us can find a solution, we all can.

stkitt
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   Posted 10/6/2010 9:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Trying to Understand Posted Today 12:29 AM (GMT -6) 
 
Young Ladies-
So sad hearing you berate yourselves. I'm sure you aren't "that bad" and of course your families wouldn't be better off without you. They would grieve for a very long time. The older ones of us in the forum would like to suggest things that would make you feel a little better, knowing full well, that these up and down depressions are very difficult to take.

Regarding the negative self-talk. If you know about self-talk, then do you know about positive self-talk? Other side of the same coin. Eons ago, it was a very popular mainstream thing since Shad Helmstetter wrote a book about it, What Do You Say When You Talk To Yourself, and then it was discussed at length in every magazine you picked up. You got a dose of it wherever you read. Nothing is a cure all, but I do think it is worthy food for thought.

Just this week I was checking Amazon for tapes to listen to while reclining alone on the bed. First I googled, and came up with Shad's very own website. Went there and he has a pricey set for sale. There were many complaints from people who ordered them, months ago, and their credit cards were charged but no tapes. No response to inquiries. I'd hate to think Shad is a big Muckety Muck now, but am wondering. He of course looks different than he did in the 70s, but very polished and fancy. Tapes were featured on Amazon, but they were unavilable at the current time.

Dang ! Don't want to support Shad's lifestyle, and wanted a set of used tapes or CDs. Guess I'll have to READ A BOOK

Don't know if you have seen the post, Desiderata. It means things desired. Its a very comforting thing to read and re-read, and back in the day we made copies and exchanged them with one another, there were other popular things like it as well. They stayed on night tables and folded in wallets. Please read it.

stkitt
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   Posted 10/6/2010 9:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Trying to Understand Posted Today 3:52 AM (GMT -6)   
 
I've been thinking about you and your struggle. I located this book for myself on Amazon. Its $3.99 with free 2 day shipping. Copied some info from it to show you. Have passed this on to someone else too. Its an easy read.

What to Say When you Talk To Yourself , Dr. Shad Helmstetter
 
I'm familiar with this book and highly recommend this to you. Maybe they have it at the library.
Sandy
BP II
Severe depression
 
T2U - I left out the copyrighted  material as this book is copyrighted. :-)

stkitt
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   Posted 10/6/2010 9:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Precious Gem Posted Today 7:20 AM (GMT -6) 
All things pass............even the bad ones.
 
I am 52 and feel better, look better than I ever have.  I work hard at it but it pays off.  I also used to be a negative thinker, it is a bad habit, a habit that you can change.  You have to want to.  The nice thing about getting older, I am not afraid anymore.  I am not afraid of failure, the only people who never fail are the ones that never try to do anything, I am not afraid that people will not like me - I don't care anymore, I am not afraid of dying because I am too busy living.  when you stop being afriad of whatever it is the scares you, life gets so much better.
 
Clean up your diet, your attitude, your lifestyle, toss out people in your life who offer nothing positive.......If your life feels bad and nothing is working - then work to change what or who is bugging you.  It is your life and nothing worth having is ever easy you must do the work.
 
Been where you are, felt like you feel, all the compassion to you today, I hope it is a better day.
 
Gem turn
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