Someone please help me with my situation../:

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Date Joined Oct 2010
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   Posted 10/9/2010 1:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I need help im having a rough time with my feelings for my boyfriend..I have this issue with being easily annoyed and if i hangout to much i get annoyed with the person. Or if im constantly talking to the same person i get annoyed..but isnt it supposed to be different with a boyfriend? The fact that my boyfriend has no friends or at least true friends except me I feel so bad if i ever let him go because im the thing that makes him happy..but im constantly thinking about him and i loveee thinking about the future i could have with him but right now the present makes me not want to be with him because its almost like im sick of him..but hes perfect in everyway..I just dont understand how something so perfect can change within a few days..i dont know whether i should stay with him or not because i dont see any negative things hes not gunna fix hes perfect..but my heart is all confused but we have only been dating for almost 3 months..what do i do? its making me feel so uncomfortable and making me feel like im in an unrealistic world and my anxiety/depression have been kicking in making things worse..

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Date Joined Jun 2010
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   Posted 10/9/2010 7:37 AM (GMT -6)   
You know I realised while reading your message that you are saying and feeling exactly the same thing I felt two years back when I started being with the guy I love. He had no friends no social life, and me I was just the opposite. He and me would talk for days and I would at times feel like I needed space. Eventually I would fight with him. But than over time I started changing I loved him so much that changing myself felt to be a better option than even imagining a life without him. We planned a future together and everything was so perfect with it's down mostly from my side caz I would be unsure about my feelings. And than one day he met the girl who didn't even once get annoyed for being on the phone 24 hours etc etc. Over time I had become the girl too who loved him so much that I would do anything for him,but he left me saying that I was not the one for him.
All the pain of changing and everything was thrown back at me. I had a breakdown and was depressed. Till date I miss him and feel it was my need for apace that pushed him away.
You still have the chance to make things, or it would be too late the way it was for me. Either let it go or adjust with him. See the positive side of it you are getting the love and attention many of us crave for. See it's hard to let go of oneself but you could speak with him and tell him that you need some time for yourself. All this only if you really love him and wouldn't be happy to be with out him or else maybe take a break to figure out what you feel. But just one thing don't make it too late.

And I notice nowhere that you mention how you feel for him. Its a question of two lives try to find out what it is you feel,and soon everything would get better.

People are different but if you love someone you can build a bridge to built up the gap. It's not easy but it's not as hard as being away from the one you love.
“Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to”


Post Edited (annie.d12345) : 10/9/2010 6:40:55 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 10/9/2010 8:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Good Morning and welcome to HealingWell.  I believe you have been advised well by Annie.
I have notice that you have posted the identical post in 3 of the forums.  This is not allowed per rules of the forum.  The rule about duplicate posts is intended to prevent flooding of the forums with the same post.  Sometimes members post in multiple forums with the same identical post.  This is considered spamming (not the salesman kind of spam, but rather flooding the forums kind of spam).  This is a waste of resources and is not permitted. 
I know you may not have been aware of this rule but perhaps  picking the most appropriate forum for your question and post your question  there in the future.
Thank you so much for your understanding.
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