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   Posted 10/11/2010 7:53 PM (GMT -6)   
My dad abused me ever since I was six years old until a senior in highschool. Now that I am in college I have bad nightmares of him beating me up and its just all memories from my past experience from his abuse. What should I do? I usually drink and get buzzed up before I go to bed so I can't remember a thing. confused

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   Posted 10/11/2010 8:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh,oh, oh, I'm sorry about your past. Think you will have to bring it out in the open with a counselor and address it.
Just had this discussion with my husband who is 53 yo. He's an alcoholic. Was sober for 7 yrs but then when life got stressful, and there were a lot of changes, started out slowly, till now his intake is unbelievable. He says that when he goes to bed at night, he is never free of the memory of his molestation when he was 5, that continued for several years, and no one ever found out. His plan was to find this guy, and kill him-this was recent. Thankfully, he can't locate the guy. He really cried about this matter in the past, and finally told me details, and I thought it was much better for him after that. Apparently not, maybe better, but not gone.

For this reason, I think you should seek counselling for this now while it is in its beginnings of haunting you. Nobody deserves to be treated like that by their dad or anyone else. You might need additional help with it from time to time in the future, but a good strong dose of dealing with it with a therapist might stop it in its tracks.

Since you are in high school, there's a counselor at school that can get things started. Hope you will take advantage of it.

Hope this helps


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   Posted 10/11/2010 11:44 PM (GMT -6)   
hi same for me........and more. this may be ptsd. post traumatic stress disorder.

i would recommend seeing your dr. there is help out there. i always ask the universe

for protection of my dreams before i sleep. if i do actually sleep that is!! has something

triggered you that is showing up in your dreams? sometimes this is how the

sub-concious deals with emotive stuff-via our dreams. i too have horrific nightmares.

try to wind down your brain b4 sleep, thus you will be in a more relaxed way, and less

will be nightmares. the booze, just a numbs...if anything it may make it worse- having to

rely on more and more. and it is a depressant too, wich dosen't help either.

you have been brave in sharing, hoping this helps. jamie.

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   Posted 10/12/2010 10:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry to read of your abuse as nobody should ever have to be a victim . I suspect you have some PTSD issues going on as I have this dx. and I have some nasty dreams. 
Have you ever seen a Psychiatrist or a Therapist to help your learn how to deal with your nightmares?
Alcohol can bring on depression so I would like to kindly suggest that you don't use alcohol to numb your pain. 
Coming here and talking to us is a good thing so stick with us.

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