As a general rule, most men don't talk about
personal issues very often, and they don't talk about
their personal feelings very often, and they rarely express their personal feelings to other men. Because of that, I think men have a harder time obtaining resources to help them with depression - not that the resources aren't available - the man is just not going to bring himself to take advantage of them.
Women, on the other hand, do talk more about personal issues and they seem to have more empathy for someone in need than do men. Women seem more likely to reach out whereas men seem more likely to withdraw - under the same set of circumstances.
I will not, because of past experiences, tell any of my male friends I have depression. I might "suggest" I have anxiety, but nothing more than that. I have seen several counselors and therapists over the years and only one time was it a man - and it was only one visit - I never went back to see him again. I just did not feel comfortable talking about the issues to him, and there was something that told me I would never be fully open and honest with him.
I feel, for me, this "man" thing is a detriment to recovery, and I'm not sure how I can overcome it. That I am writing here is a plus, that I am seeing a therapist is a plus, but I will never have a personal support group behind me, and I can see I have pretty much battled this problem in the past - alone - and I fully expect I will be battling it in the future - alone.
I have great empathy for those going through depression because I know its pain. I feel good about being able to support others who write here. But why is it I don't feel good about reaching out for myself? If I was told there was a depression support group that met in my town every week, I really doubt I would go there. There probably is a group, and you know, I won't even look it up to see if there is because I know I would not go there. Is that messed up - or what . . .