My therapist told me that there is such a thing as emotional incest, when a parent uses a child to share their problems, vent about
adult topics, etc., things that they should share with a spouse, or another adult. Unfair to the child who feels like their victim, not the child. The child doesn't know any different and can think that they are "the favorite."
So with that said, emotional cheating is likewise possible, I think. Your wife adopts basket cases, and goes overboard in codependent relationships. I too, think that being in a school/child environment, she may be a dangerous person.
And snuggling, etc on the couch? In front of you? The nerve of her. Is she TRYING to enrage you? Have never known a grown woman to behave that way and isn't that girl still a minor? If I were you I would definitely think she is cheating in more ways than one. Do you think she is hoping for a 3-some?
First step before divorce would be a trial separation. Maybe start thinking about
how you can do that. I think you should distance yourself from this ongoing drama. Its not normal.
Please get counseling for yourself ASAP. You are NOT obssessed. You are being emotionally abused
Post Edited (Trying to Understand) : 10/14/2010 4:32:26 PM (GMT-6)