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Miss Delaney
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Date Joined Oct 2010
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   Posted 10/18/2010 3:19 AM (GMT -6)   
I've been trying to understand why I feel depressed all the time. I started taking Adderall two summers ago because, my doctor thought that was all I needed. I've always felt sad for no apparent reason. The most resent event that has made me realize that I am depressed is something that some may relate to and maybe some with think it's super pitiful. This past April my 9 month old puppy passed away from unknown causes. He was my best friend and the only thing that made me happy. My boyfriend and I got him the previous October. He was our first dog and we loved him like he was our son. During this time I was finishing up school with my Associates in Applied Science/ Vet Tech so after not having a diagnosis for his death and being educated in that field has left me feeling like I could have done something to save his life. After my puppy passed away I was immediately doing my finals and was sent to intern at the animal hospital that is connected to the ER that my puppy passed away at. I knew that when you decide to pursue in the medical field you are going to experience death and I was ready to face it. I just didn't know that I would have to face it so soon with my first dog that I only got to have for 6 months. It's been 7 months and I still cannot look at his pictures and work is very difficult when I assist with putting animals down or seeing a dog that is the same breed as mine was. I know that people out there have bigger problems than I do but, I've been sad for too long and when I finally found happiness he dies. cry

theHTreturns...
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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 10/18/2010 4:23 AM (GMT -6)   
hi miss d. i am sorry for your loss. for you he was akin to a child. i have a very cute and very loveable and loyal pomeranian. i saved her from a cruel person. she is my
mate, yeah, aussie, and i would be bereft without her.
i have lost one, long time ago, and i have lost people, to
me a loss is that. greiving happens in various ways and in
various capacities to all people. if my girl was to be
euthanased i would want someone just like you to do it,
for you show those people a loving and compassionate
human whom is being the exact same to there beloved animal. give yourself time. thank -you for sharing miss d.
you are a compassionate person, i send my healing compassionate kindness to you.
 
welcome to the forum.
 
jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

awty
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   Posted 10/18/2010 5:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Well said Jamie.

My cat was like my kid too, (I can't have children), and it is one time I allowed myself to cry. I didn't cry when I lost my Mother, Father or Brother, but animals give us so much, it is a very different relationship we have with them.

I too was so greatful that I found a vet that would put her down the way I wanted and was sensitive to what I needed for her.

I nursed for 10yrs, and have been lucky enough to be with others as they passed, I learn't to emotionally detach, that didn't mean it wasn't hard, it meant I moved through the process quicker, and was still able to give to my other patients. At first I think I went through the same doubts as you are, but time showed me, I could continue to do what I loved doing.

Good luck

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 10/18/2010 5:16 AM (GMT -6)   
thank-you for sharing awty. thx 4 you in being in this world. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

awty
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   Posted 10/18/2010 5:31 AM (GMT -6)   
:-)   Right back at ya Jamie

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 10/18/2010 9:13 AM (GMT -6)   
smurf   smurf smurf smurf jamie.

stkitt
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   Posted 10/18/2010 9:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Miss D,
 
Hello and welcome to HealingWell.  I had two wonderful Dobermans, the Grandmother and the Granddaugher.  They were my best friends and my therapy dogs as they would let me hug them and cry on their necks when I was sad.
 
We had to put them to sleep just one year apart from each other.  I went with the first one and laid down on the floor and held her while she went to sleep.  I cried my heart out for days but still had the other one............and then she  became to sick so now they both have a special place in the back yard with markers and I can just walk out the back door and still talk to them.
 
When a beloved pet dies, it's not unusual to feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your sorrow. Pets  provide companionship, acceptance, emotional support, and unconditional love. If you understand and accept this bond between humans and animals, you´ve taken the first step toward coping with pet loss - knowing that it is okay to grieve when your pet dies.
 
What helped me the most ~ my daughter gave me her champion male Doberman, "Standing Ovation" aka Memphis. First male dog I have ever had and he is just 3 years old now.  He is my new best friend,  weighs in at 90 pounds and the most wonderful dog ever. He has helped me so much.  He is lying here right next to me as I type this post.
 
May I kindly suggest you take a chance,  when you are ready, and share the love in your heart with another pet in need of a warm and caring best friend such as you.
 
Kindly,
Kitt
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getting by
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   Posted 10/18/2010 3:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Miss,

and welcome to this wonderful forum. The people here are so kind and genuine.

I lost my german shepherd last November and still have a hard time with it. I have a nine month old german shepherd now that I have to get spayed on Friday. Very nervous about this, but trying to keep it together. I have a 14 year old aussie that is not doing good. Last night she got off of the couch and was limping, I decided to give her an asprin in some cheese and she wouldn't take it and collapsed. I sat on the floor with her for 30 minutes and finally she got up and I helped her up on the couch again. Today she is doing better, but still having times of weekness and she can't stand up. Other times she walks slow. Do you think maybe she had a slight stroke? This happened to her about a year ago just before my german shepherd had to be put to sleep.

This is particularly hard for me as I have had her for many years. I don't have children, so my dogs are like my kids. You will get through this, but it takes time. My pup is nine months old too. I don't know what i would do if I lost her. I am so nervous about this surgery. I know it is routine, but still. I am just afraid of showing my fear and her picking up on it. I am really trying hard not to be nervous about it. The hardest part is bringing her home and making sure not to hurt the inscision area. Getting her in and out of the truck. I guess I should deal with that when the time comes, it will probably be a lot easier than I think. Fortunately she is a small shepherd. Only about 60 pounds, I am guessing though.

Well, enough about my problems, this is your thread. You will get through this. I am sure you have a lot of questions. Do you have any idea as to what might have been wrong to cause this? Be good to yourself. I had to get another dog to help make it easier for me. But I have always had them and can't even picture myself without a pet. I hope that you feel better soon. Take care, keep posting. As you can see there is a wonderful group of members here that really do care. And our lovely moderator, Kitt.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

Aurora60
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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 10/18/2010 8:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Miss D,
I know just how you are feeling. Our pets are family members. There is no set time
that one grieves, it just takes time and time doesn't seem to be a friend always.
I have lost three poodles, the last one a few years ago. He was 17 and I really stretched
out the time because I couldn't bear to part with him. I finally realized that his day to day
life was no longer of any quality and having to put him to sleep was hearbreaking. I have
another poodle and he is 15 and 3 mos. He has terrible arthritis and I worry so about him. I won't be getting another dog after this as I can't face the loss anymore. You are  amongst a lot of company here with dog lovers. Your feelings are understandable. It
just takes time before you come to accept this loss. Please know you have my sympathy and understanding for your loss. I hope some day you will find another dog
you will love. Grief is the price we pay for love. You will find hapiness again and I hope you will some day give that love to a new dog. Please know that any problem one has
here is important to all of us and you will find many wonderful friends here who will care
about you and reply to your posts. Try to take good care of yourself.
 
Gentle hugs,
 
Aurora
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