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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 10/21/2010 4:15 AM (GMT -6)   
so, the lady and i are over. i have not spoke to her,
if i do i will be-definately slapped with an intervention
order. her mum last fri stuck a note, that was savage
under my door telling me to......off!! so sad, moreso
for the lady, a women, a yr older than me, yes with
disabilities, but with abilities toooo!! i am saddened that
her sadistic mother is keeping her non-intergrated
and dumbed down. obviously there is a lot of
learned helplessness via mum to daughter, daughter
only knows of her mum's authority and dosen't
realize that she too has a voice.
 
i hope this dosen't come across as mean, but i can
no longer put myself at constant peril for her.
aaaarrrggghhhh!!! i have tried to intergrate her,
i have helped her speak up for herself with her carers
and service provider, i have given her love and
tenderness, as she me. but this relationship never
got wings, never stayed with me, everywhere with
a darned carer, and i have done all the mandatory
training as well. i was hated from day 1. i was called
a pervert, i was told i was taking advantage of a
vunerable person, @#$% i am vunerable!!!!!
what people with disabilities can't have meaningful
relationships!! furthermore her mum works for
here support agency. a cold hatred...................!!!!!!!!
 
enough.... i am fine....sadly she is not. she loves me,
as do i. i am glad for the time that we shared, even if
it was supervised. hopefully i have instilled some
fire in her belly so she can one day, stand tall,
leave home and be happy.
 
jamie, sorry a bit of a rant.
 
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

awty
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   Posted 10/21/2010 5:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Ranting is just fine Jamie,

Sometimes people really are in our life for just a season, for either them or you to learn something, and when the lesson is learned, you both move on. Inspite of the hurt, the dysfunction, either one or both of you will have lessons to learn from this.

Given time, when you stand back and are able to be objective, you will see this. In the meantime ride with the emotions, as this will take awhile longer yet. You invested heavily with your hearts, time will repair.

Take care Jamie

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 10/21/2010 5:35 AM (GMT -6)   
i know mate. this is part of my grieving process. yes, we came into each others lives
for many a reason, and i know that we have learn't much from each other. yeah, people came and go, even when it is love, and my love to her is to now let go. sad, sad, sad. but it is what it is. stupidly, insanely sad. such is life. thx 4 your support awty. needed an outlet. with kindness, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 10/21/2010 7:06 AM (GMT -6)   
SOMETIMES IT JUST SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JAMIE.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

getting by
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   Posted 10/21/2010 7:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Jamie,

I am so sorry for your pain. Glad that you can come here to vent. I too wish that she realized that she has a voice. Probably just been this way for so long that she doesn't know any better. I am sorry for what they said about you. You are a good person. Kind and compassionate. Remember that. Know that you are loved here. We will always be here for you. Things could change too. don't give up hope.

Hugs, Karen
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theHTreturns...
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   Posted 10/21/2010 7:35 AM (GMT -6)   
THX MY GOOD MATE. JAMIE.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

stkitt
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   Posted 10/21/2010 8:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Jamiee,
 
Yes sometimes life just stinks !  You know in your heart you are none of those awful things this woman accused you of but the words of another that can control your life hurt.  This woman is a very controlling person and she is going to continue doing everything she can to be the number one person in her daughter's life.
 
You tried and as you say you had the great opportunity to meet and love this lady as she loved you back.  Let yourself grieve for your loss and know we are here for you.
 
Gentle Hugs,
 
Kitt
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theHTreturns...
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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 10/21/2010 9:37 PM (GMT -6)   
yeo kitt, thx, exactly what i am doing. cheers, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

theHTreturns...
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 20186
   Posted 10/24/2010 3:49 AM (GMT -6)   
i appreciate your support siobhan. with thx, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.
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