this is a two edged sword IMHO. I do not feel that I can not have my own thoughts and do my own things without sharing every single thought with my husband. In fact he would fall asleep of boredom if I shared all my thoughts for the day. Some things he is just not interested in as I am not interested in sports.
It comes down to sharing the important things with each other. If your feeling down, I feel telling your partner that you are having a down day leaves the door open for them to initiate a conversation with you. Perhaps they are on their way out the door to work so try to pick times that you are available to talk through your feelings.
I see my therapist and my husband will ask how it went ? I may say it went well and that is the end of the conversation or I may say, can we sit down for 15 minutes and talk about it? So we give each other cues when we want or need to talk.
Good luck, Annie, hope this helps a bit.
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