post natal...what im not sure

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

New Member

Date Joined Oct 2010
Total Posts : 1
   Posted 10/22/2010 5:50 PM (GMT -6)   
im having a problem, an hav been since my son was 2 months old,he is about to turn 3(yrs).i dont want his dad anywhere near him, we're still together although clearly it causes problems. i dont want him talkin to him, touchin him,puttin him to bed, i keep them as far a part as i can.i kno its wrong but i cant explain why. iv seen a doctor who said it wasnt chemical,an it doesnt affect life in terms of day to day, he goes to nursery, i have no issue with him being with strangers all day, but wth my close friends and family i really struggle, not jus to hand over control but to physically see him with some one else.has anyone experienced anythin like this because of all the documentaries i'v watched an stories i'v read its not sumthing i'v ever come across...?

Elite Member

Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 10/23/2010 8:49 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello and welcome to HealingWell.  It feels to me like you have a phobia of some sort and I would like to suggest that you talk with your  Dr. re this fear of letting your child's father touch him. 
I have heard of people that fear leaving their children with strangers but you seem to have the reverse problem. 
Please seek out some counseling to help you overcome this fear.
Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease.

"If you can't change the world, change your world"

Trying to Understand
Veteran Member

Date Joined Sep 2010
Total Posts : 776
   Posted 10/24/2010 1:32 AM (GMT -6)   
Does sound like a phobia.
When my first was 2, there was a huge scandal regarding a well regarded nursery school in the area, involving child abuse by the mother and son owners. It rocked my world.
I was shocked, naive, whatever, but thereafter was very scared of nicey-nice people, teachers, coaches, anyone. Was petrified that someone would kidnap him.
My hyper-vigilance caused me a lot of heartache. He is now 33, and the other day I had to admit to myself, things I was so concerned about didn't materialize. Phew !

So I can see how the documentaries would concern you.
But that doesn't explain why you would feel that way about your child's father.

I suggest counselling before you make yourself and everyone in your child's world crazy.
Its worth being concerned, but there is a point where your fears are getting the best of you and you don't control them, they control you.
Severe depression

Respect baby steps. Most work gets done an inch at a time. Just break ground.

Some get annoyed that people are so odd; lucky folks know that's the fun part.
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Thursday, September 20, 2018 8:51 PM (GMT -6)
There are a total of 3,005,290 posts in 329,211 threads.
View Active Threads

Who's Online
This forum has 161767 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, Titanium-Girl.
327 Guest(s), 9 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
SoMuchFun, OzLyme, logoslidat, Kent M., GoBucks, Donjr, WalkingbyFaith, csantamaria, Roadranger82