Have any of you felt like nothing seems to be helping?

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lola222
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   Posted 10/24/2010 7:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Have any of you felt like nothing seems to be helping?

I'm 22 years old and I've been going to therapy for 3 years and I'm not seeing any improvements. I seem to just be getting worse and my depression making my life more impossible to deal with. It keeps taking over more and more aspects of my life where it seems like I've gotten to the point where I can't do anything without getting depressed.

I go to therapy, but I feel like I'm not getting anywhere. I walk out feeling like we did talk about all my problems, but I'm no closer to a solution or a method of action than I was before the session.

I've tried a boatload of different medications over the past 3 years, but nothing has helped with my depression or even made it slightly easier.

I feel like I need to make a change to put myself on a path to getting better, but I have no idea what it should be.

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Trying to Understand
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   Posted 10/24/2010 8:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Might need to switch therapists, explaining from the get-go what has been the pattern so far. If you are a reader, there is a book on DBT therapy for BO, and lots of other issues, but they seem to be similar, and the book does help you analyze what you're doing/why. Not a brilliant plan, just some thought provoking ideas if you are there.
You're doing the basics right? No alcohol, sugar, caffeine, trying to get out and walk in the fresh air and sun a few short times a day at least, going to bed the same time, waking up every day same time. Eat a little something solid 3x/day. Drink water.
If you want to push it into high gear, some have said that exercising at a program someplace, or something you can build up into like running is good because your body will make endorphins. This is lofty, I can't hardly get up and down the stairs, thanks to spending so much time on my *** Also, simple meditation, affirmations, etc. Google for that.
And avoid those people who are toxic..they don't improve, and I haven't been able to figure out how to grow a thick skin to repel their crap. Cut the conversations short if nothing else, really have to be going now, don't make an excuse, just get away.
There's something called the Happiness Project, I didn't read the book but it has been published all over the world and is soon to become a TV show. Not a documentary. I am on that email newsletter, interesting, and I may just spring for the book.
Meds may have helped me some at the beginning, but poop out. Especially if you're young, under 60, I would say do all the basics as a life-long habit. Try not to isolate, get out and go anywhere even if you aren't "with people". Movies are nice
Sandy
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Respect baby steps. Most work gets done an inch at a time. Just break ground.

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Taygeta
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   Posted 10/24/2010 8:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Lola,
 
Yes.  I have felt that way.
 
Have you told your therapist you don't feel like you are getting better?
 
Scythia
 

lola222
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   Posted 10/24/2010 9:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the advice, Sandy! I'll look into reading the book. Maybe it will help some. I've been considering a switch to a different, but I'm afraid it will give me so much more stress to leave and make the switch. I'm also scared that someone else I chose won't be better or even be worse. I'm try to avoid all the bad stuff, including bad people so at least I've succeeded in that.


Scythia, I have told him that I feel like I'm only getting worse, and he says he doesn't know why that is. He says that to him it seems I am the same as when I started, but I tell him that I feel a lot worse and life has gotten hard to manage. Then, he tells me he really doesn't know why that is and asks me to elaborate so we end up talking about what I feel has gotten worse, but it goes nowhere. Just me say this has gotten worse and that has gotten worse and him saying he's not sure why I'm not progressing.

Taygeta
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   Posted 10/24/2010 9:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Lola,
 
Honestly, he should be giving you some advice, tips, suggestions, insights, whatever.  If he can't, then you should be seeing someone else.  Not all therapists are right for everyone.  Not everyone can paint, not everyone can sing, and not every therapist can work effectively with certain problems.
 
Here is a major problem for me when it comes to depression.  My therapist gives advice, but I cannot follow the advice because I cannot get up enough (courage, strength, motivation, interest,  whatever) to go through with whatever she suggested I do.
 
I have been in a rut for nearly 4 years now, and though some of it is situational, it clearly has much to do with how I perceive myself.  Unfortunately, with the current state of medical science, depression is a life-long condition for most.  It's just like having a heart condition - without treatment of some kind, it cannot be kept under control.
 
Scythia

CourtneyL
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   Posted 10/25/2010 1:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I was going to a therapist who only had me talking about what was bothering me and then she would ask me the sterotypical question--"How does that make you feel?"  I just felt like screaming at her, "Well obviously it makes me feel upset, thats why Im DEPRESSED!"  She would also just sit there and stare at me during awkward silences since she couldnt think of anything to say.  She wasnt giving me any tools and I didnt feel an ounce better.  Although I didnt want to deal with the stress of trying to find a new therapist, I eventually brought myself to do it.  Lo and behold my new therapist is really amazing and Ive been able to open up about things that Ive never been able to tell anyone.  And, instead of just staring at me and asking how Im feeling, she actually gives me tools and advice on things I can actually DO to make myself feel better.  Thats just my experience but if you arent getting what you need out of your therapist then its the right decision to try and find another one who matches you better.  Good luck and I hope you start feeling better :)
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