I need to cope in other ways.

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Gyncibaby
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   Posted 10/25/2010 1:03 AM (GMT -6)   
So I am 14 years old, and I have been suffering from depression from bad relationships with my parents, I have been using self-harm, and drugs as a cope. I have tried talking to my parents about our relationship, and going to a councilor for it, but its always, and will continue to be fighting. Self-harm (cutting) has been a cope for about a year or two now, but recently I have been getting high and taking ecstasy to get away from all the drama at home. I'm looking for someone to talk to basically, to help me find other ways to take out my frustration.

awty
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   Posted 10/25/2010 5:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Have you tried speaking with the school counsellers?  You already know what you are doing isn't going to be helping you in the long run, my advise to you, is to stop those coping methods as soon as you can, before they become really addictive.
 
What are you good at?  Do you like sports?  That's how I coped, I ran, and loved running, and was 7th in the country at my peak. 
 
All you can do is focus on the way you react to what is bothering you, you are not going to be able to change your parents, all you can change is how you cope with it. 
 
ps - someone may come along and edit your post, as some of the content is not allowed to be openly talked about here, although it is very common. 

enWayen
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   Posted 10/25/2010 6:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Heeja Gync,

It is incredibly hard to get over this alone, so I applaud your move to come here and try to find different ways! I am here for you if you want to talk.

How to deal with your mood is something you will have to learn and figure out. You are still young, and there are loads of people of your age that are struggling to find the right responses to how they feel. A good way to quiz whether something works for you is to try and see the long term effects. Whilst self-harm might relieve the mental pain for the moment, it could leave scars that you have to carry with you for the rest of your life. Same with drugs, it is a short term solution. It might take the edge off the real inner hurt, but it won't make you feel better after the effects wear out.

It is best if you start looking for a cure rather than a short term fix, and that is very hard to do on your own. Since you have so much problems with your parents, I advice trying to find a third party, like a school counsellor as Awty advices. You can visit your General Practitioner as well. I used to think I could fix my problems alone, and I couldn't be more wrong. Even if you can do it on your own, others might catalyse your progress, so it is always worth it.

For now, just talk. Perhaps you have friends you can talk to? When I was your age some years ago, I wouldn't talk cause I thought it would make me look weak or anything. Truth is, it takes guts to talk.

Like I said before, I am here for you if you want to talk :-). For your information, I am 20 atm, so it wasn't too long ago that I was your age.

Take care, and all the very best!

Erik
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