That's a tricky question.
I saw a therapist for a couple months, and didn't like her, not sure why. Actually she was excellent.
I just wasn't able to "receive" her input. I went on and on about
my parents, was reading things that brought this up. She referred me to a guy that does a special therapy, you hold a thing in each hand, don't remember clearly. He warned me that I might become very upset, and should have someone with me. My husband was in the car, half asleep after a hard day at work, I could see him thru the window, but I was just not into it as I had been with the therapist. Couldn't get myself riled up enough. My fault.
Then, since I told the therapist I wanted CBT, she would say " Do you always attribute xxxxxxx?" to which I became angry and defensive, and felt she didn't understand.
She gave me a big fat workbook about
Anxiety and Phobias to look over to try and identify what I was having trouble with. I didn't like that, felt she was telling me to figure it out myself. Wrong again.
No matter what she suggested I didn't take it right. She was excellent, better than I have ever met since.
So, you have to be able to "work" with this person. To take the info with a grain of salt if you don't like it, consider, reconsider, and work thru it. If after a few months nothing is being accompolished, there is a problem with you as a team.
Then it would be better to move on and find someone else. Have you identified any sticky points in yourself that you would like to explore? Any skills you would like to develop, to cope with your illness better?
There is therapy exploring your past, helpful for sure, and can help you understand why you are the way you are. Early experiences shape us. Then therapy for the current problems, say getting along at work, with your kids, your marriage. I never kept a job for long because I would get on my high horse, and just hate it there. Or, everytime I see so and so from my family, I leave feeling wounded. There's another, taking things very personally, not knowing when to walk away, setting yourself up for hurt. A good therapist can point this out, and help you learn to cope with it better. It takes your practice. You want to learn to manage your illness, not have it run you into the ground.
You can ask the therapist on the phone before even going in, what do you specialize in? (as in adolescents, domestic abuse, etc.) What kind of therapy methods are available? (like CBT, DBT, whatever ) You're hiring this person for a long-term relationship, paying money to get help. You have every right to take 15 min. to interview them first.
You can also check the internet on this person, Google, see if anyone has complained about
them. Check their qualifications by looking up the name of the practice.
Its not easy, on the one hand you might think, they're right out of school, don't know their way around yet, or good, they are "fresh" with the latest info. Or, you can think hmm, this one's been around for awhile, experienced, been around the block a few times. You can't make generalizations, all you have is the info you have researched. And your gut feeling.
If your gut is telling you you'd like to try someone new, go for it.
You don't have to tell the current therapist of your decision. Just start seeing someone new and then if you have second thoughts, go back to the first one. Some of them want you to schedule an appt with them personally, sticky situation, just say I think I'll hold off on that right now. Bye.
Hope this helps.
Post Edited (Trying to Understand) : 10/31/2010 4:52:19 PM (GMT-6)