Failed Abortion.

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K-8
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   Posted 11/2/2010 4:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, I recently had an Surgical abortion on the 14th of October, I was 5 weeks pregnant. The Doctor said it was successful everything was fine. Until I had a phone call from the clinic asking to have another blood test taken. So I did, and they said that my hormone levels were increasing not de-creasing and the Dr said I'm going to have to go in AGAIN for another surgical abortion (having to deal with it once is hard enough but twice is just horrible). I went back in straight away the Dr gave me an internal and external ultra-sound but he couldn't find ANY tissue or remains left? I am soo confused! He has referred me to a radioligist which I go in tomorrow to see if they can find anything. I am just so over everything and want it to be over with :(
 
This has been the most horrible experience ever. I chose to have the abortion because i dont feel ready mentally or physically. I can hardly support myself let alone a baby. I have a supportive partner of 3 years. He understands completely.
Has this happened to anyone else?

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   Posted 11/2/2010 5:49 AM (GMT -6)   
hi k-8, jamie here. am male, 38. sorry that this has happened. i am glad that you have a supportive partner. as you said, the decision is tough enough. hopefully it is just routine, the radiologist. sorry not up on any specifics, but i know that the ladies will give you some info soon. you have been very brave, pls know that this is a very supportive community. sending healing compassionate prayers your way. jamie.
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K-8
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   Posted 11/2/2010 6:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you so much. It's nice to talk to people about it other than my partner.
My parents would never speak to me again if they ever found out! And I haven't had the courage to tell my friends.
It's very draining not knowing what is going on. And will be very hard for me to have the surgery done again if needed.

Anyways I hope you are well. And thanks again :)

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   Posted 11/2/2010 9:50 AM (GMT -6)   
i am trying to think on this one on how to reply to this and not put any of my feelings into it. i understand why you did it and how hard it is for you, i feel for you. i personally couldnt do this but i wouldnt have the strength to do it either. i am sorry you are going through this. is it possible you have a tubal pregnancy or maybe your body just hasnt realized that the baby is gone? psychosomatic(i dont know if i spelled this right but sometimes the body is tricked that it is pregnant and acts like it is but isnt). are you using any birth control cause that could do it.
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   Posted 11/2/2010 11:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Wishing you all the courage in the world K8, may you find all the strength you need to get through this painfull time

K-8
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   Posted 11/2/2010 7:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks worriedgirl, I understand everyone is going to have a different oppinion (and I may face some angry people) But I did it for all the right reasons, If I were to be over the 12week mark I could never have it done!!

Im not on any birth control as it makes me feel too sick to take. But yeah it could just be my body being 'tricked'. I finally go to the radioligist today after 3 weeks of pain! Will let you know how it goes afterwards. I'm from Australia so it is different time.

Thank you awty

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   Posted 11/2/2010 9:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Never heard of that, failed abortion...incomlete abortion perhaps, but your doc has done a very thorough job of checking for tissue remains etc. I would consider him the expert, and since you have had the 2 in/ex ulltrasounds would feel better knowing that there is nothing there. Wonder what radiology will turn up? Only other thing I can think of is that you immediately got pregnant again.
I had an abortion too, in the 70s, just was legalized, women's movement roaring ! My reason, I was on a bunch of anti-psychotics because my dingbat nurse practitioner/psych thought I was schizophrenic, that was REALLY back in the dark ages. The truth was that in addition, it was the worst possible time for me, and I had waited 5 years to be a mommy, no luck, and had gone back to school and was nearly finished.
Didn't feel bad at first, but within the next year it got to me. Well, the unfairness of it all, and that i couldn't undo it, and if I could, maybe my baby would be deformed or sick. But what if I never HAD another baby, I didn't get pregnant those long 5 years.....
Its not good or productive to ruminate about these things. Was sorry that anyone knew, it was such a woman's right then, unquestionable, but people did judge. I regret ever confiding in anyone I "knew".
Hope that will help a little. I think your doc sounds like he knows what he's doing, and will be able to treat you successfully.
Birth control is important. Condoms are simple, insist on it. They have about a billion kinds in the drugstore because they are widely used. Your guys pleasure is not going to be effected that much, and so what, you have to think of yourself.

K-8
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   Posted 11/3/2010 1:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks! Yes I should have put 'incomplete' instead of 'failed'. Well there is no tissue or remains. Although my hormone level has increased? Still to hear back from my Doctor.
But yes I will now be taking birth control again and will definatly NOT be going through this again.

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   Posted 11/3/2010 6:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey there K-8,

This is Shrub, we were on chat tonight (Wednesday 10 PM AEST).

After reading your post and now realising you get sick from birth control pills, I'm wondering if you have tried the
Depo Ralovera injection? (Deep IMI) It last's 12 weeks and has very minimal side effects if any for myself.
Generally you shouldn't use it for more than 5 years and I'm not even sure that a doctor would prescribe it at you age, but
It's just a thought... Hope to talk again soon.

Take care and try not to worry unless you have real reason to worry. Less worry = More healing.
Again, welcome to the Healing Well :+)

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/4/2010 7:12 AM (GMT -6)   
dont do depo its the worst birth control ever, my sister got pregnant on it and lost it and i gained 80 pounds on it and never stopped my period. everyone i know had problmes with it.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

K-8
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   Posted 11/9/2010 1:46 AM (GMT -6)   
ARGH they are making me go back in on thursday for the 3rd time!!! I have NO idea what is going on. I'm just so over everything :( I wish someone knew what I'm going through and I hope everythings going to be alright. It keeps getting worse

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   Posted 11/9/2010 7:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey there K-8

We may not know the exact emotions that you are going through but a lot of us do really get that you are sooh anxious about your
situation. At least you are getting treated and not ignored by the doctor/s. You will get the answer you are searching for. It may not be
this week, or next, but you will get and answer. Easy for me to say 'try not to stress out too much' but truly, if you can understand
that this is journey in your life (although a horrible one :( ) it will come to an end. One thing in life that we can be assured of is CHANGE.
Nothing stays the same. I really hope you have change soon and that it is positive change. Hang in there possum <3. Be brave, my prayers are with you.

Hugs, ((((((K-8))))))
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   Posted 11/10/2010 10:56 AM (GMT -6)   
((((((((((((((((K-8)))))))))))
sorry you are going thru all of this. I am on Depo, because it helps with stopping my periods. Because one of the worse issues I have with my disease is chronic bleeding.
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   Posted 11/10/2010 12:09 PM (GMT -6)   
K-8,
 
Choosing to have an abortion must have been very difficult for you. I am sorry to read of all the troubles you are going through and please  know that I am here to support you and send you healing hugs .
 
Kindly,
Kitt
 
 
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   Posted 11/10/2010 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
K-8,  as with the others, I am sorry for your pain.  I also want to say something you may not have heard yet.  I am proud of you.  I am very proud of you for taking responsibility for you and making a choice that works for your life.  I do not use the terms Pro-Life and Pro-Choice.  I use rather Pro-Life and Anti-Choice.  I am Pro-Life, for the life you want to lead, for those who want to have children, for those of us who don't. 
I too had an abortion because I was not ready for the responsibilities of motherhood. Years later I was told I was pregnant but there was no fetus.  It didn't develop but the few fertilized cells made my body think there was. Both circumstances were painful but remember the saying "this too shall pass." I add, "the lessons stay".  Though frustrating I'm sure,  let the doctors take care of you. Continue to take care of yourself and hold your head high.  You, your life and your happiness matter.
 
Be well,
Sasta Anois.

K-8
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   Posted 11/13/2010 4:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for all your support! It truly means a lot to me.
 
I was only 3 weeks when I had it done (the Doctor thought I was 5) so that's the reason why I had all these problems and sickness. I was 7 weeks two days ago when I had the procedure done again. Was for the best. I can't help but feel down at the moment (my hormone levels are all over the place) But I will get through this.
Thanks again everyone :)

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   Posted 11/13/2010 4:28 AM (GMT -6)   
YOU WILL K-8. JAMIE.
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   Posted 6/15/2018 11:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi can someone help, i took misoprostol for early 4 weeks and its almost 12hrs now but still nothing
Pls help

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   Posted 6/16/2018 4:02 AM (GMT -6)   
It will happen Lahimber3. Just give it time. I hope it goes well.

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   Posted 6/18/2018 5:40 PM (GMT -6)   
HI Lahimber3,

It has been a few days since your post. How are things going now? I hope that everything is okay.

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