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Warspite
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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 11/4/2010 4:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello there... pardon if I sound standoffish but this is a bit difficult to put out there.. :\
 
about a month or so ago I started going out with this great guy...funny, smart, all the rest of it.. it ended really badly. We fought for hours and just..never talked after that. What was perhaps even worse is ever since then I feel alone among company..people I thought I had a strong relationship just ignore me, forget about me, or act hostile most of the time. I know it's probably me projecting since my ex and my friends never even met each other; but I just feel so alone a lot of the time..even when I go out to events and such I dont feel connected with anyone.
 
I don't really talk to anyone about it..I usually am the listener in situations like this and I find it hard to open up on a personal level with someone..so yeah..

enWayen
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 585
   Posted 11/5/2010 11:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Heeja Warspite,

Perhaps you can share some more? How long since you had that argument? What is your background?

Having a fight with someone you care for is always hard, and if you don't talk about it the aftermath might linger for a long time. With me, the more at comfort I am in a group, the better I fit in. If I feel self conscious or have something that happened or I am stressed out for I find it very hard to stay with the subject and feel alone as well.

May I ask how long this is going on? Cause if it is three days since you two split up, it is kind of normal to be a bit low. But if this has a history that goes back further, it might be something worth seeing a counselor for. Since this is a depression channel, I want to ask, are you depressed? Or is this more of a blow you want to share without the weeks of sadness and tears that are usually associated with depression? If you are here to vent without having depression, it is fine by me :-), but I guess it is good to know how severely this is impacting you and your mood.

Feel free to share more, and don't worry war, things will work out. Perhaps make some nice things for yourself, or go out for dinner with a close friend or something that can help you take your mind off of this. If you are really struggling, perhaps you can find someone to share your thoughts with. Don't worry if you aren't comfortable with sharing them at the moment, most people are in the beginning since it makes you vulnerable. But that will become easier. Besides the relief of venting it can also increase the strength of the bond you have with someone, so it might be worth giving a try!

All the very best,

Erik
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