depression or simply low self esteem?

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   Posted 11/7/2010 2:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, just an intro to the community and hopefully some help.

I am 18 and male. I definitely suffer from low self esteem and always bring my-self down even though in my heart or hearts i am quite decent at school/college. I am not bad looking, but i sometimes feel like i am. the major issues i usually have are not being able to accept compliments and simply brushing them off and taking any negative critism to heart. i often think i am not good enough. Additionally, i have lost my motivation is life (for many years now) and never done anything about it. i don't go out often, i don't play any team sports or pursue any real interests. as for education, i only persue interest in that, because i want to do well, but i ain't even sure anymore if that is from within me or just teachings of my parents who very much focus on such things. i often come up with excuses for myself and claim that i have studies to do, to avoid interaction or any activities. i avoid other activities believing others will judge me and not really want me there, or i will not fit in. if i have to go somewhere or do go, i often create a facade that i am happy and fit in, showing off a bit of confidence and friendly banter, to try and make new friends, but ultimately this falls down and i am left alone with more of an acquitence than a friend at all (just someone i know, but never really speak to or purposely avoid if i see them coming the other way). i have suffered from these symptoms/signs for years now and i have only ever spoken to one online counsellor about it (for 1 hr). why? i am not sure myself, but i think it is because i just tell myself most of the times that things are alright, and i constantly just say i am content with life, when really i am not. every few weeks, something or other happens that just brings me down, and then i feel like crap for a few days to follow. i pick myself off and brush it off thinking it was nothing. that is another question i would like to know. is it depression i suffer from, if i feel crappy only every so often (and no it isn't the type of feeling where an ordinary person goes through an emotional rollercoster through life)(i am not a very emotional person to be honest, i don't feel overaly happy ever, and just content; and same with a small downfall, i brush it off, but maybe deep down it is all building up and affecting me, i ain't sure?). it has taken me a long while to do anything, as like i said i brush it off and continue with life.

hope i can get some help here. thanks and also sorry for having no real structure to this, i just put down anything i could think off at the top of my head.

Post Edited (boy1234) : 11/7/2010 1:50:21 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 11/7/2010 4:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello 1234,

Firstly a very warm welcome to the forum,

I am having trouble reading your post tonight, but get the jist of it.

Depression is diagnosed when you meet a few criteria, one being, the very low mood lasts longer than three weeks consectivly. If you are able to pick yourselve up after a few days, then that wouldn't be the case, but diagnosing depression is more indepth then just the one thing.

Because I, and we here are not a Dr, it would be best to seek outside help, get a diagnoses, and start a treatment plan if need be.

In the meantime, stick around, you may learn more, and be able to relate and help others.

Let us know how you are getting on

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   Posted 11/7/2010 7:54 AM (GMT -6)   
I do like your attitude about brushing yourself off and starting again. Never give up. This will keep you afloat. You have a good coping mechinism there. Though sometimes we do have to get into the situation some and access it. But keeping on going is so important. You will go far with this.

Keep trying, know that we do care here.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/7/2010 7:07 PM (GMT -6)   
You sound exactly like me. I am still working on finding my motivation, sometimes when I am thinking about doing something, I say don't be the girl who blocked her own shot(Brandnew). Please keep posting :)
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