Love Doesnt Exsist?

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TinkerbellLuvsHim
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   Posted 11/15/2010 8:53 PM (GMT -6)   
So, i recently got dumped and i dont know... i love him so much. Like i really cant live with out him and i guess he doesnt understand that because, he now has a new girlfriend. And safe to say, its killing me to hear about them. See, my mother never supported our relationship. So, we went through rough patches, and i thought about leaving him forever a couple of times as well. But, i didnt because i believed he was the one. You know.. like my soul mate or somthing. But, now i realize none of that exsist because look what happend? He said he loved me like an hour before he left me, how do you think i feel? Empty. Like.. i have to puke but, im not sick. Like nothing is on my mind, im not there. I wanna die, but then again i dont. Because then i wouldnt see him. And maybe whats so hard is that i still speak with him? But, heres the thing, i feel like im going to die if he doesnt text me. All i wanna know is how to make this go away, i cry all the time.. and i cant get over this. But he can? Help me please.
 

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 11/15/2010 8:56:08 PM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 11/15/2010 11:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

I am sorry that I had to edit your post but we are not suppose to discuss self harm or suicide here on the forum.

I think you got some very good advice from It's Genetic. Love is also something that grows too. You may be surprised who you end up falling in love with. And you will know it.

Chalk this up to experience. The pain will lessen in time. But like as was posted above, we hope that you do not take him back. But that will ultimately be your choice if it comes to that.

Take care sweetie, be good to yourself. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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Lululiya
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   Posted 11/15/2010 11:48 PM (GMT -6)   
"When you're young everything feels like the end of the world. But its not, its just the beginning."

I'm not belittling your situation at all, hun. What you're going through is one of the hardest things I believe we can go through as people. Just think though, when you survive this (you will!), you'll be able to take on anything.

Anyway, that quote has done wonders for me. Anytime I felt desperate and like my world was falling apart, I'd read it or recite it to myself. Maybe this only works for me, but I really hope you'll be able to find some comfort in it too.

I can tell you from experience that the pain won't go away overnight, but it lessens over time until eventually you meet somebody new and you forget all about the other guy. I know that sounds ridiculous and you're thinking "I only want him, there won't be another guy" but trust me, you'll find the guy you've waited your whole life for and he'll TREAT you better, too!

Take care, be strong, muscle through it and stay positive! Life throws a curve ball sometimes. <3
“The most important things are the hardest things to say. They are the things you get ashamed of because words diminish your feelings - words shrink things that seem timeless when they are in your head to no more than living size when they are brought out.”

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   Posted 11/16/2010 7:16 AM (GMT -6)   
that it does!!!! and i have had my share. people come and go in our lives, and life is to be lived. with compassion, jamie.
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Swordsman06
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   Posted 11/16/2010 8:57 AM (GMT -6)   
I have went through nearly the same thing. I honestly understand your pain. My girlfriend told me that she loved me, right before she told me that she liked this other guy too. I frequently find myself angry at the other guy, but I should be angry at her. Life in my opinion is messed up, but we all heal. The phrase "Time heals all wounds" isn't true, but wounds do heal. They may leave nasty scars, but they do heal.
I still cry nearly every single night for her, but she doesn't cry for me. I would kill to have her text me whenever the mood hits her, but I always end up texting her first. I know how you feel. I may not understand exactly how you feel because I'm not you, but I do know how you feel.
Cheer up. smilewinkgrin   He may not be the right guy, but there are...1000000 gu-..no wait... ALOT of guys in the world. He may feel like your soul mate, or something like that, but you will find another guy that loves you more than you can ever imagine. Look forward to the day you meet him. Remember! He can't find you if your sad and not your true self. Keep your eyes open smilewinkgrin   I honestly hope you find him soon

Chartreux
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   Posted 11/16/2010 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   
You are worth so much better, remember that...you will find love, just
don't hurry it. These wounds you have now will heal, with time..for
now take sometime for yourself. You are special and you are deserving
of someone so much more better...
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HWU
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   Posted 11/17/2010 1:30 PM (GMT -6)   
So, i recently got dumped and i dont know... i love him so much. Like i really cant live with out him and i guess he doesnt understand that because, he now has a new girlfriend. And safe to say, its killing me to hear about them. See, my mother never supported our relationship. So, we went through rough patches, and i thought about leaving him forever a couple of times as well. But, i didnt because i believed he was the one. You know.. like my soul mate or somthing. But, now i realize none of that exsist because look what happend? He said he loved me like an hour before he left me, how do you think i feel? Empty. Like.. i have to puke but, im not sick. Like nothing is on my mind, im not there. I wanna die, but then again i dont. Because then i wouldnt see him. And maybe whats so hard is that i still speak with him? But, heres the thing, i feel like im going to die if he doesnt text me. All i wanna know is how to make this go away, i cry all the time.. and i cant get over this. But he can? Help me please.

this is going to sound cheesy, but i'm going through the exact same thing. well, i've been through it, and i still am.
it hurts right? and i know a lot of people are going to promise to you that you'll get over him with time, keep your distance etc etc.. none of it will help. you'll just get used to the feeling. you know the feeling right? the one that is difficult to explain, it's inside your chest and kind of burns and aches and is impossible to really describe how it feels, but you know what is being described once you've felt it?

i had to dump a boy because he was treating me badly, really badly. i thought he was the one for me, and all of that, i know that me having to dump him will make it seem like i brought 'the feeling' on myself, but i didn't. he dumped me, and gave me 'one more chance' repeatedly. i had enough. he was basically already with another girl. but to cut a long and painful story short, i dumped him after over a year of being together, and he went out with her the next day.

So i know how it feels.
the incedent with me happened months ago now, and not a day goes by where i don't think 'what if?..'
and at first it hurts, and you just sit and cry and feel so bad. you think, you almost know, that if you could just do one thing, you could get them back. but there's a reason that you're not together, and although you may never accept that, you will soon find instead of getting over this boy, you will begin to get used to the pain, you will feel numb. you can never cure a broken heart, you will always renemeber, and cherish what you had, when you had it, and renember it for the right reasons- but learn to realise that there's a reason for everything, and a better thing WILL come along, it may takes years or months- but it will. i promise. trust me.

if the pain ever gets to much please don't do what many of us do. it may seem like an easy way out, but it's not and you just get worse and worse and it doesn't work trying to attempt to take you're life. trust me.
no boy is worth that.

you may feel like there is no point, but there is. and that point is that you are surving now right? maybe you don't want to at the moment, but you are surviving, and thats a whole lot better than being dead.

renember, this boy will one day realise what he's missing, and you will have someone who treats you right. and the girl? she's not even worth thinking about.

getting by
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   Posted 11/17/2010 4:17 PM (GMT -6)   
HWU,
 
I think you have given some good advice, and I hope you can follow it too.  Women have had boyfriends, break up and later on in life get back together again.  If it really is your soul mate, that can happen.  And yes, there is a reason for everything.  It is all a learning process.  And these are valuable lessons. 
 
I hope that you start to feel better soon, time really does heal, but it is time.  And it can take awhile, especially if you were really in deep love.  As life goes on though, you will see that there are different kinds of love.  You learn compassion and understanding.  Keep trying.  Things will be better, just like you said.
 
Hugs, Karen
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