Teenager seeking advice.

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CarrieAnnB
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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 11/19/2010 5:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey everyone. I just discovered this message board while on a quest for a safe, nonjudgmental environment for people to discuss their emotions and/or thoughts. I hope you guys can welcome a younger person (I'm sixteen.)

I guess I'm going to vent about how I've been feeling, even if everyone chooses to skim right past this. I guess I'll start with this: I had a best friend. A best friend I met online, talked to for years, and when my parents had agreed, she visited my house last summer for two months in one period, then came back the next month for about that whole month, if I'm remembering correctly. We were best friends. Texted everyday when she wasn't here. I had tried before talking to her about how I've been feeling, but she always changed the topic to her. I usually had no problem discussing her issues, but on occasion - rare occasions that practically never occurred - I wanted to talk about me. I eventually gave up mentioning anything at all to her. When I wouldn't respond to her text messages some days, she'd instantly be offended. I'd say, "It's just one of those days for me." And she'd say, "I'm your best friend, you should talk to me about it, ect. ect." but I couldn't. That really has not much of anything to do with how I've been feeling, but I just threw that in there to have the next thing I'm going to say have more meaning. I started distancing myself from her. As I started distancing myself from other things. We started talking less and less, and I will fully admit it, it was my fault that we parted ways. And now, because I severed ties with our friendship rather suddenly, I feel like I can't take on a responsibility of being a best friend right now. Not while I'm being selfish. Not while I'm still trying to figure my own self out.

Since I've lost my best friend, I've been the same way. My mom thinks I'm suffering through a minor bout of depression. I tell her that that's false. I think "depression" is an extremely heavy word, and having seen my mother suffer through it and currently still is, I know what strong toll it takes mentally, physically and emotionally. I don't think I'm there yet. However, I do get this strange feeling that intrudes on me from time-to-time. I'm scared I'm unable to satisfy.

I used to know, straight down-the-line, what it'd take to make me happy. I could just see it. But sitting here, in my room, imagining my life played out exactly how I always wanted it, leaves me with a bitter feeling. It's not what I want anymore. And that scares me. Because if that won't make me happy, what on earth possibly could?

On another note, I am angry with myself. I am angry that I still feel unhappy, when I've got more than enough to be jumping for joy. I have a family that I love more than I can say, and to me, they're all I really need. So why do I get this feeling that despite everything I have that I don't deserve, I'm so incredibly sad? How can I make it go away?

Thank you for reading. Any and all opinions are greatly appreciated. Love, Carrie.

stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 11/19/2010 6:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Carrie,
 
Hello and welcome to HealingWell. 

The teenage years can be tough, and it’s perfectly normal to feel sad or irritable every now and then. But if these feelings don’t go away or become so intense that you can’t handle them, you may be suffering from depression.

It's hard to put into words how depression feels, and people experience it differently. There are, however, some common problems and symptoms that teens with depression  seem to experience. I have read some of the symptoms and will share them with you here.

1.  You constantly feel irritable, sad, or angry.

2.  Nothing seems fun anymore, and you just don’t see the point of trying.

3.  You feel bad about yourself—worthless, guilty, or just "wrong" in some way.

4.  You feel helpless and hopeless .

Depression is not your fault, and you didn’t do anything to cause it. However, you do have some control over feeling better. Staying connected to friends and family, sharing your feelings with someone you trust, and making healthy lifestyle decisions can all have a hugely positive impact on your mood. Coming here and talking with the members about your feelings is a good choice.

Remember you are not alone.  You might be surprised at how many other teens suffer from depression.

May I suggest that you talk it through with your Mom and perhaps a visit to your Doctor for a medical check up to be sure nothing else is going on with you is a good idea.

I look forward to getting to know you better.

Kindly,

Kitt


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cierraberra21
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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 11/30/2010 4:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Carrie,
I can really relate to your best friend situation. I was really close with someone a few years ago and she was the greatest friend I ever had, but we were about to go to different high schools and because I'm a very jealous person I told her we should'nt be friends anymore. One of the biggest mistakes I have ever made (so I thought). I use to beat myself up over breaking up our friendship, but I realized you have to lose some people in life in order to realize how much they mean to you and therefore teaching you not to do it again. Your situation of course is different, I think you deserved a better friend who would listen to you and talk to you about your problems since you were always there for her, but of course the pain of losing a companion hurts. I just hope you can realize that you'll find another friend where it's a two-way relationship. You deserve that.

Also, you mentioned your mom said you may be depressed. I don't know you, but one thing I know about depression is it makes you feel as if you deserve nothing when in all reality, you probably deserve the world.


I really hope this gave you a little of what you were looking for. Oh, and I'm 17. Not some adult giving you advice. I really hope you fix what you need to and continue posting if you need to, if I gave you some insight or anything else, I will continue to respond to your posts.


Good luck!
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