Thanks for putting a title on it. I totally forgot to.
I do not feel obligated to stay at their house. It started out that I would come for an evening every now and then to sit with grandma when they went out. Both my bosses are very busy. I thoroughly enjoy being with grandma. And while I am not getting paid, I think of it as making money since I am not out spending that much. Yes, I do feel somewhat close to her, not so much with him. See, sometime back she told me I was like part of the family. She is 11 years older than I am and has never had kids. My mom passed away when I was 24. She is like a play mom to me. My family growing up was close and we always spent holidays together, and while it was not a large family (extended such as grandparents, cousins ect.) it was large enough. Now everyone is pretty much gone on my moms side except my uncle and their 3 kids who are all married and live in Texas. My sister and I have never really gotten along very well. She lives here with my dad and her husband will be moving here in a year or two. From things that have been said by my sister, I feel as if when my dad is gone, I will be on my own. She used to say she would never let me be homeless. She and her husband, while not rich, have done fairly well. Now she is saying that when they buy a house here, I will not be allowed to stay overnight ever, even on holidays and weekends. I live about 30 miles away from friends and family. My boss has sort of opened their home to me. I will admit she gets on my nerves at times, but am sure not nearly as often as I do hers. I do understand the possibility of resentment, and yes, there has been a tiny bit but that is going to happen in any situation. This is something I chose and offered to do. I want for her and her husband to be able to go out sometimes. Unless it is for a very short period of time, they cannot leave grandma alone. I think at times she is pretty protective of me and she will get on me and I may end up in tears. But I know down deep it is because she really does not have a free minute to herself. She usually will go swimming for a short period most days. and right now it is worse because she is a professor at the community college and the semester will be ending soon and when I am not there on weekends or evenings, she spends alot of time taking care of her mom. This does not leave her alot of time to do what she needs to. Our biggest issues are that we come from two totally different lifestyles. I have never made much money. She is a professor and he is an atty. They are a generation in front of me. Helping others has always been a strong thing for me. But I agree, I do need to spend time with my friends too.