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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/23/2010 5:37 PM (GMT -6)   
i went to my therapist today and he is gonna work with me on how to ignore this guy and focus on what i need to do.  he did say he doesnt think i have bipolar but he thinks i may have ADD. he gave me an assessment and im thinking that next week he will tell me i am. almost all the things on the assessment i put almost always on. and when i looked up the symptoms they match me for almost all of it. so now i am wondering if that is so what does that mean for me? Does that change me. 
 
This can be why im labled stupid, and lazy and all. it does make a lot of sense. while i hope i am wrong in it but if so then can i be fixed? anyone else here have add.

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   Posted 11/23/2010 6:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Worriedgirl,

I don't know if I am ADD, but I do have what is called fibrofog, and I have obsessive thinking. I think too much and dwell on the same thing. Therefore I am not paying attention to what I am doing a lot of the time. I practice mindfullness to help me concentrate on the task at hand. Work on being in the now. Focus on what you are doing. Often we look at the whole big picture and it is overwhelming. If you break things down to small tasks, you see a lot more progress.

I am not sure how the ADD is effecting you, but that is what I have had to deal with. I started taking a mood stabilizer and that helps me focus. I don't think this is going to change you at all. This is just something new to deal with. But you were probably subconsciously dealing with it anyway. Keep your chin up.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/23/2010 6:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Know any online groups like this for add
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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   Posted 11/23/2010 6:51 PM (GMT -6)   
So far, I have found this:
 
 
I hope that this helps you. 
 
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   Posted 11/23/2010 9:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I was told as i kid I was stupid & wake up Pay attention! I was dx with ADHD at age 65.I wasn't stupid I had a medical disorder.........I don't pay attention to anyone who disses me now.PFFFFT!!!!
SnowyLynne

worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/23/2010 10:53 PM (GMT -6)   
is it manageable? can i get better? if it is what i have can i become a more effective worker and housewife. i dont know why this fits but it does
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/23/2010 11:29 PM (GMT -6)   
why doesnt healingwell have an ADD forum? can we get one on here? i like this site better
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/24/2010 12:21 AM (GMT -6)   
i will have to see because going to another forum is change and i hate change and i hate the setup and i see things on there that upset me, for ex. a post was complaining about how people blame things on there ADD. well some people need to vent and talk. i dont feel comfy there like i do here. i think ADD is a disease it belongs here.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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   Posted 11/24/2010 7:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Peter is going to add some new forums at the end of the year. I will approach him about add. I don't think anybody has suggested it yet. I don't know if it will be adult or not, the add I mean. LOL... But I will post it to him and make a suggestion.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/24/2010 9:01 AM (GMT -6)   
i want to post some things i have read about ADD then i will comment on them. it will be long but i want you to see what i do see.

“zoning out” without realizing it, even in the middle of a conversation.
extreme distractibility; wandering attention makes it hard to stay on track.
difficulty paying attention or focusing, such as when reading or listening to others.
struggling to complete tasks, even ones that seem simple.
tendency to overlook details, leading to errors or incomplete work.
poor listening skills; hard time remembering conversations and following directions

a tendency to become absorbed in tasks that are stimulating and rewarding. This paradoxical symptom is called hyperfocus.
poor organizational skills (home, office, desk, or car is extremely messy and cluttered)
tendency to procrastinate
trouble starting and finishing projects
chronic lateness
frequently forgetting appointments, commitments, and deadlines
constantly losing or misplacing things (keys, wallet, phone, documents, bills)
underestimating the time it will take you to complete tasks
frequently interrupt others or talk over them
have poor self-control
blurt out thoughts that are rude or inappropriate without thinking
have addictive tendencies
act recklessly or spontaneously without regard for consequences
have trouble behaving in socially appropriate ways (such as sitting still during a long meeting)
sense of underachievement
doesn’t deal well with frustration
easily flustered and stressed out
irritability or mood swings
trouble staying motivated
hypersensitivity to criticism
short, often explosive, temper
low self-esteem and sense of insecurity
feelings of inner restlessness, agitation
tendency to take risks
getting bored easily
racing thoughts
trouble sitting still; constant fidgeting
craving for excitement
talking excessively
doing a million things at once
Adults with ADD/ADHD often experience career difficulties and feel a strong sense of underachievement. You may have trouble keeping a job, following corporate rules, meeting deadlines, and sticking to a 9-to-5 routine. You may be fed up with constant nagging from loved ones to tidy up, listen more closely, or get organized. People may have labeled you “lazy” or “stupid” because of your forgetfulness or difficulty completing tasks, and you may have begun to think of yourself in these negative terms as well.

all of these things are things that i suffer from and have been suffering with for ten years. i am a procrastinator, if i dont set my clocks fast then i am late, i forget things and conversations, my mind wanders alot, i zone out if i am not interested, i have trouble starting and finishing tasks, i dont think before i speak, i often interupt, i cant focus on things that bore me, i talk excessively. i am oversensitive and everything else except the risk taking. dont you see how this fits.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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   Posted 11/24/2010 11:03 PM (GMT -6)   
This also sounds like something a lot of us experience with depression, called spacing out. It becomes a way to escape. Just something I read about. Though you very well could have adult ADD, there are meds that help. At least you will know now how to deal with it.

I wish you the best. I hope that the doc gives you something for it.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/25/2010 10:50 PM (GMT -6)   
karen i could pass it off as depression if i would have been depressed for the last ten years or more but since i have been dealing with this before i was depressed im thinking ADD. for example, 7 times my husband has asked me to fill out some paperwork and i have forgotten about it each time. i cant focus, i am having a hard time focusing on anything. i hate it. as he said i am a grown adult i shouldnt have to be reminded 7 times to fill out something.
 
today thanksgiving was good but i noticed my focus was horrible, i couldnt stay on track and it was a struggle. no one understands what i am going through and i dont think they ever will. i am told i am a drama queen(im sorry this guy should have cramps and see what i feel). i have been called everything from lazy to stupid. i am sorry i am not lazy i am just having problems remaining focused. i am noticing it alot more. i need to be able to focus and it is getting rough. i know its because i am waiting to see what the therapist says but darn this is rediculous.

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   Posted 11/26/2010 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   
I hope that you can get this under control. There are good medications for ADD. There is ritalin, concerta and adderall. Either one of them might help for you. Talk to your doc. Let him know how difficult this is for you. Hopefully he/she will help you with something. If that is the route that you want to take. Did you check out that forum? Was it any good? I am sure that there are others that might be better.

Keep us informed with this. As I know it is very frustrating.

I get the fiborfog as they call it. They say it only takes a fibromyalgia patient only 12 seconds to lose their train of thought. I can walk into a room and forget why. It is very frustrating. People think that you aren't listening. But you are, you just can't retain the information.

I wish you the best. Keep us posted.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/26/2010 10:59 AM (GMT -6)   
i didnt like the other forum karen, they are not as welcoming or as patient and i totally felt unwelcome. it didnt bother me as much when i didnt know the why i just thought i was stupid but now i know the reason it means i can be helped and i want to get helped. i dont like change at all, and that is why i havent pushed as hard for a transfer as i need to, dont worry i will. change is scary for me and it means more confusion and more of a focusing issue. change is bad for me always has been, is that a part of ADD? I like this forum and would love to see ADD added on here but i will search for more but this will be my primary forum as i love this place.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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   Posted 11/26/2010 11:22 AM (GMT -6)   
I mentioned adult ADD as admin is giont to add some new forums before the end of the year. But I don't know if they will choose that one or not. It depends if Peter thinks that it would be needed.

I don't handle change that well either. But the sad part, is that there will always be change in our lives. But I try to take it as it comes. Abrupt change is hard for me. Gradual change I don't notice as much. But, yeah, I use to have a really hard time with it.

I am sorry that the other forum wasn't welcoming. I am glad that you are staying here. Keep posting as there are always new people coming along and you may find somebody who has the same problem. I am getting better at focussing. It takes time and patience with yourself. Know that you are not stupid or lazy.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/26/2010 11:29 AM (GMT -6)   
maybe he will read this and see it is. maybe if enough members posted they would like one for ADD. i know of at least two that would welcome the site. i will keep posting here until i am told that i am not within the topic(although it would break my heart). i am trying to focus i am. but i get sidetracked. i know music helps to some degree, i use music when i drive or else i would lose my focus completely. i am honestly not sure in my life who i can tell and who i cant tell. im not even sure anyone will understand what i am going through or just think i am using it as an excuse. as for my job, i dont know how they will react and if they will treat me different. i just dont know. im really scared on what this means for me. tyoungmil has been very helpful and is trying to keep me on tract bless his heart. he has become a really good friend and i love him so, in a friendship way. karen and shuvy i also love you guys as you guys have followed my post. i kinda wish i could get more input but i love that you guys have.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 11/27/2010 10:38 PM (GMT -6)   
i realize until tuesday i cant confide in hubby, i mention the ADD and it was a general comment and he rolled his eyes. i guess its because whenever a doctor tells me there is a possiblity of something i research it online and obsess over it. i tried not to on this because i know the therapist is right on this, that i am ADD but with hubby i need to wait til i am diagnosed. i wish i could talk to him about it but he is just not that type. not his fault really. i cant help i obsess over things. maybe i need to bring that up to the counselor too.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.
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