Lost in Fantasy

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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 11/24/2010 3:54 PM (GMT -6)   

I Find that i've been lost in fantasy my whole life. Real life just never seems enough. As a child i always imagined that i would always go far in life. I fantasized about my future when i grew all the time. Time slipped by...now 3 decades later i find i never went anywhere. I spent soo much time addicted to the fantasies that i was consumed by them and forgot about that there was a real life out there. My life in my head is so much more gratifying than the one in the real world.Now my life has suffered and feels empty.

I am now desperate to change before life runs out and i waste it all. problem is i just don't know how. I tell myself everyday that i'm going to do better today and work before my goals but i get depressed and anxious without understanding why. i tell myself i'll just rest a little till it passes and then i'll do something.A few moments of rest turns into hours of fantasy and then i have another wasted dayand i go bed feeling terrible.

I've been this way as long as i can remember. My Mum gets so angry and calls me lazy and selfish but i think it more complicated than laziness or selfishness though cause i cant seem to motivate myself to do things that are important to me, things i want to do desperately to do.

My fantasy world has become my addiction i believe i cant stop even when i desperately want to. I really need to know if my mum is right? Am i just making excuses for being a lazy cop out.
sorry it just getting me down, i dont even know if this is the right place for this sorry.
hide,hide,hide, behind petrified eyes - Pink Floyd

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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 11/24/2010 4:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Tripz,
Welcome to HealingWell and I am a huge daydreamer, especially when I am drifting off to sleep at night.  I have always had a very active imagination.
You know the problem. And now that you know the problem, you can put down the crutches and begin living more in tune with what you truly wish to manifest in your life.

Pull out the attainable underlying goals in that fantasy and begin working towards them. The rest of it is just the window dressings for a *possible* future.

You do know the difference between these dreams and reality. Stop letting them immobilize you and use them for what they are intended, to mobilize you in the direction of your best self.

I wish you healing and positive movement on your path.

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"If you can't change the world, change your world"

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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 20279
   Posted 11/26/2010 10:17 PM (GMT -6)   
use them in a goal orientated way. i do. welcome
to the forum tripz. things come in all manner of ways. keep positive my friend. with compassion, jamie.

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