I don't know how to feel better.....

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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 11/25/2010 4:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone,
this is my first time here, and I feel bad posting asking for interaction on issues that may be so common. but I don't know what else I can do. I just want to feel better.. and I am hoping that i can feel better soon....
I recently acted reckless and acted out on my crash for this guys that I eventually fell inlove with. the truth is, I felt in love with him from I don't know, the moment I got to know him. we share so much in common which is something i never had before. truly.. while at first i thought it was a puppy love, I let it turned into something serious during a weak moment.
Now, I don't know how to get over him. he doesn't feel the same way as he is just a guy that "cares about me" but don't love me. he was my friend, was my roommate.
I so want to get over him. knowing that he is happy and hanging around my friends having a blast while i am not there makes me feel like I want to die.
why can't I be ok like him?  I need help..

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   Posted 11/25/2010 8:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Good Morning and welcome to HealingWell,
I am sorry to hear you are feeling down about the loss of a dream you had  as I know it hurts when you love someone that does not feel the same as you do.
Try to meet with new people, interact with them and bond new relationships with them.  Don't begin dating to blot out the memories of your old relationship.   You have just lost a short-term relationship involvement and investment in fantasy and in hopes for the future. Try to keep yourself  from dwelling on your past. Start your new life with your own ideas and in  new way.

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you. It may not be easy at times, but in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of who you are.

With kindest personal regards,


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   Posted 11/25/2010 8:46 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. This forum is for depression and ways of coping, so I don't know how much we can help you with your boy problem. All I can say is be open and honest with him and hopefully this will work out for you and him both. You can ruin a good friendship with romance. I hope that doesnt' happen. Take it one day at a time.

Hugs, Karen
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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 11/25/2010 10:45 AM (GMT -6)   
sarrowme, you don't have to feel bad about writing into the forum. Yes there are so many people here who could help. And don't feel bad, that what you are experiencing is a everyday matter. It doesn't have to be.

You might be experiencing something that happens everyday, but to you, it is important and is something strong.

It might be hard on you now, having fallen in love, so just remember, that one day, in ayear perhaps, you will look back over all this and think differently, but for now, just accept thoughts that you have and remember that this phase will just pass.
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DelRae Adams
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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 11/25/2010 3:28 PM (GMT -6)   

it hurts when you keep thinking of someone over and over again, and you cant be with them, but put it to thoughts of positive construction and that the thoughts are intertwining to build something up.


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   Posted 11/26/2010 9:51 PM (GMT -6)   
all the best to you, with healing compassion, jamie.

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