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strawberrylips82
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   Posted 12/2/2010 10:04 AM (GMT -6)   
me n my boyfriend are currently having problems, one minute were breaking up then making up. my head feels all over the place with everything thats going on. Personally i think the main cause of the problem is me i always put my foot in it al the time and say things in anger that i dont mean. i do suffer with a little paranoia. ive been cheated on in the past and for some weird reason i think my boyfriend is going to do it to me. i know he wont but there is that thought running through my mind all the time. i know i shouldnt be thinking like that. i love my boyfriend with all my heart and i dont want to lose him but if i carry on like this i know i well and trully am.
 
i think my paranoia stems from my past cos my ex's have cheated and i was beaten and raped by my ex's too. i think in a way also im finding it hard to accept that i found someone who loves me for who i am not what i look like. i know i suffer from depression, that stems way back in to my past i was bullied from a young age cos of my size my mum left me and my dad when i was a very young age, i had my first child when i was 20 yrs old and she past away 2 days after birth, then i had 3 boys straight after, then my ex husband started beating me and i lost all 3 of my kids to adoption cos social services said i wasnt emotionally ready to look after my kids.
 
i seriously dont know what to do, i dont want to lose my boyfriend but it looks like i have if i didnt say those 2 words we could have worked things out.
 
i love him with all my heart, but i seriously think i have lost my one true love through my own fault n mine alone. i just wish i could step in a time machine and didnt say what i said. but as they say damage said damage done.
 

worriedgirl
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   Posted 12/2/2010 10:09 AM (GMT -6)   
welcome to healing well. i would try and sit down and talk with him, explain you didnt mean it and why you feel this way. tell him you feel insecure then you need to get counseling and stick with it
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

strawberrylips82
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   Posted 12/2/2010 10:11 AM (GMT -6)   
ive tried talking to him but i dont think he will ever forgive me, i just dont know what to do

worriedgirl
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   Posted 12/2/2010 10:17 AM (GMT -6)   
he will just sit him down and tell him how much you love him and you are willing to fight for him. then tell him you are going to get counseling to work through your issues and you want his support
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

strawberrylips82
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   Posted 12/2/2010 10:28 AM (GMT -6)   
the thing hes suffering with depression too, n now he says he wants to im in absolute turmoil at the moment, i really dont know what to do

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 12/2/2010 9:01:58 AM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 12/2/2010 11:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Strawberryliips82,

I am sorry I had to edit you post but we are not to mention anything pertaining to suicide or self harm on this forum.

I am sorry for you issues that you are going through. Know that we all care about you here and want to support you through this. I think your bf needs counseling and you could probably get him to go. If you are thinking the worst right now, you might want to contact somebody to help him. Even if you have to call 911. If this is serious, don't hesitate.

I will post a hotline for you.

Hugs, Karen
 
 
This is a place where you can post about suicide if you feel the need to.  There are also numbers that you can call under depression resources at the top of the page.  I hope that things get better for you.  Keep posting...
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