bad relationship caused my sadness and anxiety now im trying to heal.

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sara28
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Date Joined Dec 2010
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   Posted 12/4/2010 1:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone,
 
 
I was in a very bad relationship for more than 5 years , but I have been married for 4 yrs and I have a beautiful child. OK, I am a very happy person, lots of ambitions,  want to go to graduate school, be a great mom, fun and loving, and enjoy life but I need to explain. I married this guy that I loved to death, and I had the best image of him well a yr into our marriage i found out he was lying to me about everything and he was cheating on me and expecting a baby , well I left him but u know after being seperated for year I decided to give him another chance for the baby.. WEll i went back with him to discover he was worse unloving, rejection, he was acting weird, doesnt stay home, sleeps out, same old behavior same pattern, i began to get sick, stressed a feeling i never experienced I had my first panic attack and i began to get afraid feel negative and depression. Well anyway, I left him about a month ago... I couldnt take it nomore,,, i am now trying to cure and heal myself.  It is a very horrible feeling , i feel like nothing is fun anymore but Im trying to go with the flow , im trying to be positive for my baby. plz help.. how can i just forget him and move on...forget what he did, and just let go of the past and the depression and anxiety, im tiered of the symptoms. no one understand around me. u just cant snap out of it, i know its possible i have been taking baby steps for past three weeks and i have been feeling better, but still need to be more confident and higher self esttem.

laiza
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   Posted 12/4/2010 4:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi,

I have been in a quite same situation as you...read my previous post (how to move on)...We are not yet married and neither we have a child...but still..I love him to death...and spend 8 years of my life with him. I have been with him through anything and tried to understand and forgive him for everything...all the worst that u can think of. However, he still left me for no reason at all. I begged him to come back and to stay with me...but he would just shout at me and tell me...I dont need you anymore.I also feel negative and had a horrible feeling about myself. I keep calling on my friends and my family. Up to this date...I swear...Im still not over him. I still get this withdrawal symptom that I like to see him, call him or talk with him even though I know he would not return any of those.The first thing that I did...I accept the fact that were through. I stopped hoping that he will be back. Not knowing whether to wait or to forget is the worst suffering...so I decided to forget...I can't say that I'm already at my best to this day...but...I can say that I'm better. I talk with friends..e.specially guy friends who will tell me how great I am..say things that I nver heard from him..only then I will feel better and feel that I am special...Most espcially, change you number...remove anything and everything that would remind you of your times together...I hope my sharing can help you...same as ur sharing wud be able to help me...this is the biggest fight of our life...and once we survive this...we will feel great! all the best to both of us!

sara28
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Date Joined Dec 2010
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   Posted 12/4/2010 5:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank You ALL, i JUST RECENTLY LEFT HIM MONTH AGO AND WE R DOING DIVORCE BUT iM MUSLIM SO ITS DIFFERENT THE WAY WE DIVORCE. i REALLY NEED SUPPORT, IT JUST FEELS WEIRD, IDK IM LIKE NOT ME , IM ALWAYS JUST CRYING AND THINKING MY HEAD IS LIKE FOGGY EVERYONE TALKING TO ME, I HEAR THEM I AM AWARE OF EVERYTHING IM REAL CONCENTRATING BUT IM JUST NOT INTERESTED BUT I PUSH MYSELF TO GET UP CLEAN , SPEND TIME WITH MY BABY AND FAMILY, I AM JUST ALWAYS THINKING OF HOW I FEEL AND U KNOW I AM HAVING SYMPTOMS BUT I KNOW IT IS BETTER FOR ME TO LEAVE HIM, ITS HARD NOW BUT IT WILL GET BETTER!!! IM BEING STRONG, IM LETTING GOD HELP!! ITS JUST I HAD THIS IMAGE OF HIM IN MY  HEAD THAT I WAS BELIEVING AND TELLING MYSELF HE WILL BE GOOD AND CHANGE AND SOON LOVE AND RESPECT ME... I CAN NEVER FORGIVE HIM AGAIN NOW MY EMOTIONS ARE LIKE ROLLERCOASTER ITS HARD ESP WITH ANXIETY SYMPTOMS TOOO!! I WILL STAY POSITIVE, I KNOW GOD HAS SOMEONE BETTER FOR ME THAT DESERVES ME AND WONT CHEAT ON ME HURT ME!! I JUST NEED HELP IN STEPS ON HOW TO RECOVER STEP BY STEP AND GET OUT CHANGE HAVE FUN BECAUSE I JUST SPEND TIME AT HOME DONT LIKE TO GO TO MALL OR EAT OUT NOTHING!!!
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