Posted 12/8/2010 11:59 AM (GMT -7)
On February 25th, 2009 I started dating my current boyfriend. Him and his mom shared a two story house. The top part was hers and the bottom part they called it his apartment. He wanted me to stay with him every night, and since i was so smitten with him I agreed. We've barely spent a night apart since. Well, on August 2nd of 2009 I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant. He flipped out saying he didn't want kids and that if I didn't have an abortion we were done. I called my step mom up in Illinois and told her what was going on and what my boyfriend said. She talked with my dad and they said that they'd send me a plane ticket to come up there and live with them and they'd help me raise the child. I agreed to do that and when I told my boyfriend he flipped out and got in his car and drove off. I was grabbing my stuff out of his house and I was grabbing the last bit when he came back and just hugged me, then we went inside and talked. He told me that he wasn't going to let a child of his grow up without a dad and he wanted me to stay with him here in Florida. Well, we started breaking the news to people. Everyone except our moms. He told his mom about 4 days later and she flipped out. She called me a ***** and a selfish, naive *****. She told me that I just needed to go to Illinois and have the baby since I wouldn't have an abortion. I was scared to death (just like everyone is) when they find out they're pregnant. I hadn't told my mom yet, so his mom took it upon herself to tell her and to try to cause problems between me and my mom. Since their house, his car, his boat, and everything was in her name she decided she was going to sell everything to make things harder on us. I felt like he worked so hard for everything he had, that it wasn't fair for me to take it from him by keeping that child. So I aborted on August 10, 2009. Knowing how my family felt about abortion and how I feel about abortion I knew that it was going to change me, and not for the better. I waited 4 weeks to tell my family that I was no longer pregnant and when I did they all disowned me. When I aborted, they gave me a 1 month sample of birth control and I was gonna get more when I went back for my check up. I didn't want to go back to that place, so I just never did. His mom found out I was no longer on birth control and she flipped out again. Saying I was selfish and stupid. She made me leave the house for a few days and she told all of her friends how 'stupid' i was being. What she didn't know, was that I was going to my local health department in the next month or so to get on a different kind of birth control. about a month later, we closed on our house and were getting ready to move in (yes, she sold it all anyway). On November 25th, we moved in and everything was great. Until she closed on her house on December 2nd. She then moved in with us and continued to cause problems. My mom was over and we were talking and hanging out and his mom walked in and started talking crap to me and my mom and once again calling me a b*tch and saying how stupid I was. She said i would never make it through college and I wouldn't be able to keep a job. Finally, my boyfriend intervened and told her to relax because I was working full time, getting ready to start school, and I was on birth control. I had done everything she asked me to do, yet she was still running her mouth. She stayed throughout the holiday then left for about a month. While all of this is going on, I've got MY step mom telling me how I'm such a horrible person for murdering my baby. Anyway, things stayed calm until about mid February when she decided she was gonna go into rehab for her drinking problems. Well, she decided she couldn't sit through the rehab and she left early. She called someone for a ride, but then took a ride with another person without telling anyone else. So basically, she did it for attention. She showed back up at our house that night and I was so disgusted with what she had just done and how worried she made everyone that I could barely speak to her. The next day, when my boyfriend's dad and step mom were over, his mom (Susan) made a smart comment directed towards me "Well, don't I just feel so welcome! I just might stay forever!" when she said that, I couldn't keep my mouth shut any longer so I told her about herself. Later on that night, my boyfriend and I were talking and he told me that we were gonna break up if I couldn't get along with his mom. I went in 'her' room and talked with her and she, once again, told me I was a little b*tch and she thinks i'm using her son blah blah blah. She also threw the abortion in my face. Which wasn't what I need to hear at the time. I told her that I felt like she manipulated me into an abortion and I was never going to forgive her. I started to let all of that go, but yet again in June she decided to start some more drama. She was asking if I was on birth control and since we didn't wanna lie to her, we told her know because it was causing all kinds of problems. She kept quiet for awhile, but a few days later she freaked out and called everyone telling them i was pregnant and that my boyfriend had been cheating on me the entire time we've been together. When I heard her say this to whoever she was on the phone with, I called my boyfriend and told him we needed to talk once he got home. When he walked in, I told him what I had heard. So we asked his mom what she was talking about and she pretty much admitted to lying about the whole thing. Once again, I was a selfish lying b*tch. She said I was a sociopath because I don't like dogs, yet she hates babies. I'm selfish for coming off of birth control when it makes me sooo sick. Apparently, I'm the one that's messed up in the head, but she called her son an 'it' until he was 3 months old and even then considered giving him up for adoption because she was so disgusted by him. In July, we find out that her niece Katie, who's 18, is pregnant. & of course his mom is mad, but she is being supportive. Telling Katie how proud she is of her, but is saying how stupid Katie is to me and my boyfriend. She's just two faced. Then in August of 2010, I got into it with my step mom AGAIN and she told me how she told my ten year old sister that I "killed her niece or nephew" and at that point I gave up on Susan (bf mom) I feel like she did me such an injustice by being manipulative and lying, but my boyfriend feels like I should've let it go a long time ago. His mom STILL lives with us because she cant seem to get her life together, so what do I do? I obviously love my boyfriend, but I hate his mom. Any advice is greatly appreciated.