I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this, so feel free to move it if I put it in the wrong place. To start off, I am a female with Turner Syndrome. I don't have any functioning ovaries (they were removed), and was raised as a male. My husband happens to have Klinefelter's Syndrome (47,XXY). Because of his ambiguous genitals, he was raised as a female. We are now looking to correct that and live life as the genders we were born as.
We are going to therapy, and we have come out to friends and co-workers. A good majority of them said they promise to respect our wishes and refer to us correctly. There, however, is one individual who says she accepts our decision yet refuses to respect our wishes. It happens to be my husband's superior. We tried telling her that being referred to incorrectly is a source of great frustration and anger. I actually lost my temper somewhat when she referred to my husband as "she". I attempted to correct her, which turned into an argument. We were told we had to be assertive, that habits are sometimes hard to break, but I'm at my wit's end. I suggested to my husband that we move somewhere else where no one would know us, and we could start fresh, but that will take time to save up the money to move.
My husband seems to think that his manager will fall in line eventually once she starts hearing everyone else referring to him correctly. Even talking to our therapist, I still pretty much cry myself to sleep. I just need someone else's point of view.
Thanks for reading.