New member, just want some help :(

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Teepee2468
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Date Joined Dec 2010
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   Posted 12/15/2010 7:32 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi

Im really new to this, not really sure where to start, but i know things need to change with me, and im hoping someone out there can give me the guidance i need?

Ive been battling depression since april, its been hard and some days i really feel like im doing okay, and then others i just hit such a low point i wonder if im improving at all, everytime this happens its like im drowning. But the thing is, its messing with my head, its making me exaggerate things in the past, to make them worse, almost as though im bracing myself for when they are. I need to stop making this stuff up though, because its gonna get silly, and if it eventually comes to light that some of what ive been through wasnt how i said, ill lose my friends, my family, my boyfriend, and ill be right back where i started with the depression, just feeling alone and useless.

I really want this all to change, im going home for christmas from uni soon and i want to see my boyfriend and my family and know that im doing okay, and that all the lies have stopped. I dont want to be the way i am, i used to be happy :(

If anyone can help itd be so appreciated, just advice, or anything, i want to get out of this :/

getting by
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   Posted 12/15/2010 7:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Teepee2468,

I have a saying that I heard that can help you.

Yesterday is history,
tomorrow but a mystery,
Today is a gift,
That is why it's called the present.

Try not to dwell on the past, or worry about the future. Stay in the NOW. And take life one day at a time.

You might want to talk to your doctor about how you have been feeling. Get a complete physical to make sure that there is nothing else going on. Know that you are among friends here. We all support eachother. One day at a time my friend.

Keep posting. There is a good book that I recommend. It is called Feeling Good by dr. David Burns. It is an old book, but a good one. You can get used ones cheap on the internet. It may help you to think differently.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
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chman
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Date Joined Nov 2010
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   Posted 12/15/2010 8:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for posting that old saying.

Teepee2468
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Date Joined Dec 2010
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 12/15/2010 8:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Thankyou for your reply,

that saying is very useful! i know i need to let go of the past, but i have always struggled with how. I just want to let go and live my life - without the past i would be okay...do you know of any good techniques to relieve the past memories so i could move on?

Thanks, Aimee

getting by
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   Posted 12/15/2010 9:18 AM (GMT -6)   
When you start thinking of the past, put up a mental stop sign. Say, stop, stop, stop. Three times. Practice that everytime that you start thinking of the past. Keep your mind busy.

I have what is called obsessive thinking. I too use to do that. I take abilify now and it helps with that. Now I only remember and think about good things. I don't know if it would help you or not, but it might. Talk to your doctor about it if you want to try it.

I am sure that some others will come on with some advice too as the day goes on. Keep checking your thread.

Hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 12/15/2010 11:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Good Morning and welcome to HealingWell,
 
I have been right where you are and I still go there from time to time.
 
To a certain extent its healthy to analyse something that went wrong and to learn a lesson from it. But to dwell on things like this sounds awful for you.

I did go to a therapist once who suggested that if you can't fill up your list visualise nice or even funny things happening to you - something that will make you giggle, do that before you go to sleep!

Just wanted to say hugs and sounds like Karen and other members  have some good advice there, I'd certainly follow it.
 
Happy Holidays
Kitt
 
" Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love! " - Hamilton Wright Mabie
 

givinguponit24
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Date Joined Jan 2011
Total Posts : 138
   Posted 2/14/2011 9:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to Healingwell. Its like a support group for diseases and chronic illnesses. Apparently the depression is a chronic illness. It hurts.
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